(Closed) Where are y'all skimping vs saving?

posted 4 years ago in Reception
Post # 16
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Bee Keeper

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msmeow13 :  


  • Dress- I will have a long bridesmaid dress in ivory without the elaborate skirt layers, petticoats, boning, etc. I am not as excited as most brides are about the dress. This will only cost a few hundred dollars instead of thousands.
  • Officiant-Our officiant is a judge who works at the courthouse during the week so he charges much less than theologists or other officiants. Besides, it’s mandatory for us to be civilly married by a government appointed personnel.
  • Non Saturday wedding- This is not for everyone but we are having the wedding on a Sunday. I do not need to meet any minimums plus I got a 10% discount from our all inclusive venue (our venue is also our caterer). I also don’t need to rent chairs, linens, plates, glasses, silverware, etc.
  • Transportation- We are having the accommodation, ceremony & reception in one place so I don’t need to get a limo, fancy car, whatever for the day. Instead, we will use the resort’s golf cart.
  • No bridal parties- I do not need to buy dresses or gifts for anyone. Plus, less drama and no rehearsal dinner that can cost up in the thousands.
  • Plated meal- My venue charges $20 more for a buffet per person and buffets can lead to more food waste so plated it is. Plus, the presentation is much nicer.
  • DJ instead of a band as bands are WAAAY more expensive. Also, I’v heard too many guests from previous weddings say they, “can’t dance to their music”.
  • Cake-I’m on the fence about getting a single tier of wedding cake to cut then cupcakes for the guests. Not sure yet. A cupcake is cheaper than a slice of tiered cake. However, I somehow feel that I might miss out if I don’t get a traditional tiered wedding cake (you can always have single tiered cakes for other celebrations).


Photography & videography. After all the drama, time and effort, photos and videos are what you have to immortalize the day. I am hiring the best in our area. I don’t care if they’re more expensive than others.

Post # 17
221 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

We are splurging on the venue, the food, booze, and DJ. Maybe my dress, but I’m trying to be very practical and not drop thousands on something I will wear for 8 hours. Though, that may change when I go shopping later this year. 

We are saving on photographer, I booked an up and coming photographer in our area, she takes beautiful photos, but is still getting her business out there, so she’s much cheaper. We are not having a cake, just cupcakes and cookies. Minimal decor, we are getting married in a beautiful old Buolding, and there just isn’t much need for decorations other than the reception tables, and I’m planning on doing that myself. I am planning on using flowers from my mom’s garden for the bouquets and arranging them myself. We are not doing favors or photobooths or anything like that. 

Mainly we just want a good atmosphere, and I think we will have it. 

Post # 18
547 posts
Busy bee

I don’t know about everyone else, but reading through this, it amazes me how different people’s priorities are for their wedding.  And I’m sure everyone is going to have amazingly lovely weddings.  Just goes to show, there is no one right way to have a wedding!

Post # 19
515 posts
Busy bee


  • venue, catering, bar: top shelf everything, multiple courses
  • shoes & jewelry ($250)


  • lighting- only using a few DJ lights instead of the outside vendor (saved about 1k)
  • dress- bought a runway sample ines di santo under 1,000 (saved 5k)
  • florals- simple bare necessities (only bouquets & centerpieces, free bouts)
  • minimal rental decor
  • photographer – only 5 hours
  • cake- dessert course via catering, small cake for cutting
  • veil- etsy $60


  • favors
  • excess decor, signage
Post # 21
431 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Ceremony Chapel: 350

Reception hall (included chiavari chairs, fancy linens, etc): 650

Food/bev: <8k

Dress: under 1k

Photos: 2k

Brass quintet: 1k

Flowers: 800ish

Cake/cupcakes: 700ish

Decor: under 500

Hair: 60 plus tip

Makeup: did my own

There were a few extras like gifts that I did not include in the total.

We had a brunch wedding the Wednesday after Christmas in 2016 for just under 140 guests. It was absolutely perfect! 🙂 The food was absolutely incredible (venue catered) and it was just the right length. Ceremony started at 10 and ended a bit before 11. Reception started at 11:30 and ended around 3. 🙂

Post # 22
523 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

Saved: dress ($235 for a short, ivory bridesmaids dress), flowers (didn’t have any – no bouquet or floral centrepieces. I do not like flowers haha), no videographer (I would never want to see a video of my wedding)

Splurged: for the actual wedding it was the food and open bar. But overall the biggest splurge was our 10k honeymoon.


Everything else I think was middle ground. Our overall wedding cost (not with engagement ring or honeymoon) was 18k

Post # 23
19 posts
  • Wedding: April 2018

I’m splurging on the photographer and our venue/catering/open bar. The first thing we decided was to have an open bar – they’re just way more fun! 

I’m saving a lot on my invitations and decor (not flowers) because I’m a designer and did them all myself. I think the total cost of my invitations (full color with an invite, details, and RSVP card on linen paper with an envelope liner and calligraphy that I did myself) was around $400 for 100 including postage – which was about 1/3 of what I was estimating if I didn’t do everything myself. I’m also DIYing all the signage/seating chart and marble tile place cards so that’s saving a couple hundred vs buying all those. 

I’m saving on my videographer, ceremony musician, and officiant. My uncle has a wedding videography business so he offered to film our wedding as a gift. A friend of ours is playing our ceremony music, and my fiancés aunt is a pastor so she is officiating our ceremony.

I’m also not having a day of coordinator because my venue handles almost everything so I’m having a close friend who does a lot of events in her day job “coordinate” for me.

Our wedding will probably cost around $40k total including honeymoon and rehearsal dinner. We’re paying for everything ourselves

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