Post # 1
My Fiance and I are planning a small wedding for a number of reasons, mostly financial. The guest list is almost finalized, and the general rule of thumb is family and close, mutual friends.
I have a LOT more friends/acquaintances than Fiance does…usually not an issue. However, in the last few weeks, I’ve had a number of people–that aren’t going to be invited–ask me (via e-mail) where we are registered.
I don’t want to tell them where we’re registered and later find out they aren’t invited…seems a little gift-grabby to me. Any ideas on a tactful reply?
Post # 3
Oh, that is tough. I would just tell them you are planning a small intimate wedding and do not expect gifts from them…. if they still insist then offer up the info.
Post # 4
I agree with amyisnice , thats the only way to do it without hurting there feelings
Post # 5
Here’s what I have used a few times via email . . .
“We’re having a simple wedding with family and a few friends, so we are keeping a tiny registry and not even having a shower. Your best wishes is all I can wish or hope for, and you have already given us that!”
Honestly, folks are so rude to assume they are invited.
Post # 6
this is probably not helpful, but I know that if I were in your situation, I’d just fib to buy some time, saying “oh man, we are so behind on the registry stuff! our schedules have been so busy we haven’t been able to get it all squeezed in!”
that way, you don’t necessarily lead them along, but at the same time, it buys you time to avoid the awkward conversation. Probably not super mature, but I am confident I’m not alone in this strategy.
Post # 7
I’m such a terrible person, I have had several people ask me about that over Facebook (which I’ve been careful not to mention the wedding on, because I know I can’t invite everybody I want to). I just pretend not to see the post. Or write back and ask how they are without address the wedding. Who’s a jerk? –> THIS GUY <–
Post # 8
We DO have a registry…I’m off to check whether I put it in the protected or non-protected part of our website…
Post # 9
@JillBill: you’re not alone at all.
Post # 10
@floridabride12: thanks for the confirmation… I was nervous I might get pounced on for being a liar-pants, haha!