Post # 1
Bees, share your plans for the night before your wedding!
My mother is insisting that I stay with her and my dad, and that this is what most brides do. (Note – this would be in a hotel, as we’re getting married in my hometown, but my parents don’t live there anymore.) I had wanted to stay with my 6 bridesmaids, who we’re putting up in a generous friend’s house that offered to clear out a house and stay in a hotel to accommodate the bridesmaids and bride.
Just curious what everyone else is doing, and if its really terrible of me to “abandon my parents during a major life milestone” like my mom says…
Post # 3
My parent’s house was filled with guests and I was not sleeping on an air mattress so I made the decision to stay in the hotel room with my hubs. At first my Mom wasn’t too happy about it but in the end it was our decision and I absolutely do not regret it. We were able to spend our last night as singles together.
Post # 4
Maybe you could spend the evening with them, have dinner, reminisce, etc. then head over for a slumber party with your ‘maids? i don’t think you should feel badly about wanting to spend the night with your girlfriends, especially since it’s not like your folks want you to come to the house you grew up in and sleep in your old bed etc. Staying with them in a hotel is not at all the same. Is this something your mom has been talking about for your entire life (ie: “oh honey, i can’t wait till you get married and we get to spend one last night together as a little family”)? If she’s never brought it up till now you might want to ask where all this is coming from – perhaps she just really doesn’t want you to see your Fiance that night and needs reassurance that you’ll be with the girls instead? Logistically, if you’ll be getting ready at the house with your bridesmaids, doesn’t it make more sense for you to sleep there, wake up there, and get ready there? You’ll probably catch some extra sleep since you won’t have to transfer locations! Maybe try that explaination…
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2010 - Ritz-Carlton, Half Moon Bay
i think suffragette put it really well–maybe if you carve out some special time with just your parents before the wedding, in addition to allowing your mom to maybe tell you what’s really on her mind, your mom will feel better about you spending the night with your girlfriends. for example, maybe your mom feels like she is missing out by not being with you and the girls, and you could mitigate that by spending some one on one time with her before you go to hang out with the bridesmaids?
Post # 6
I need an undecided option! I can’t make up my mind! I’m so used to falling asleep beside him, I find it hard to sleep without him. But on the other hand, a night apart would give a bit more anticipation to our day. I keep going back and forth on it.
Post # 7
I stayed at my house (hubs stayed at his mom’s house) and my bridesmaids and my parents stayed at my house, too! We have 4 bedrooms so it wasn’t like we were bunking up on the floor, lol.
Post # 8
My Mister and I just bought a house (it’s larger than my mom’s) so I am staying there with my mom, sister/MOH and my BMs. Then my Future Mother-In-Law, FSILs (3 of them) and future neices/flower girls (5 of them!) are coming over the morning of to get ready together.
I had booked a suit at a hotel but once we bought the house, I thought this would be a great way to save some dolla-dolla bills y’all!
Post # 9
I’m planning on getting a hotel suite to spend the night with my bridesmaids. He’ll survive without me, plus I steal all the covers everytime, so I know he’ll appreciate one last night without that happening!!
Post # 10
I stayed at a hotel with one of my bridesmaids!
Post # 11
I am planning to stay in the hotel with my bridesmaids.
Fiance will either stay at his best man’s apartment or at the house of one of his groomsmen who lives nearby.
I personally would not want to stay with my parents in a hotel room. For me this would be a stress fest which is the last thing I need the night before my wedding!
Post # 12
Me and a few of my BM’s will be staying at my parents house. Its more convenient because that’s where our rehearsal dinner will be, and we won’t have to lug all of our stuff somewhere else. Besides, it cuts down on hotel costs! Fiance hasn’t figured out where he’ll stay but that’s his deal, I’ve reminded him to handle it. I don’t want him to just spring it on a groomsmen that he’ll be sleeping on their hotel room floor. Its going to be really strange to be in the same town and not sleeping next to each other!
Post # 13
I’m staying in my parent’s condo (it’s a destination wedding) with them and my younger sisters. I’m actually excited b/c I’ve lived away from home for almost 2 years, so any time I get to spend with them is precious. Plus, I think it’s kind of symbolic.
Post # 14
Like @jaylii9, staying at the hotel with my parents would be a major stress fest. I really want to stay with my girlfriends, who are all flying out just a couple of days before – I will have spent the whole week with my parents. My mom is really big on the symbolism of me spending the night with them, but she and I don’t get along and I know it’ll wig me out. My Fiance is staying with his groomsmen in his parents house, and his parents are going to stay in a hotel to give the guys the run of their house, so it just seems to fit to have me stay with my girls.
*sigh* who knew weddings could cause so much family drama…
Post # 15
Fiance and I share an apartment so both of us are going to find somewhere else to stay. I’m not sure where since my sister and her boyfriend will be at my mom’s house. I might stay with one of my bridesmaids or at my nanny’s house. Fiance has family coming from out of town so he was going to crash at somebody’s hotel room.
Post # 16
I stayed at home alone with my cat. It was weird but I didn’t want anyone distracting me.