(Closed) Where are you staying the night before?

posted 8 years ago in Family
  • poll: Who are you staying with the night before your wedding?
    Your parents : (14 votes)
    30 %
    Your bridesmaids/friends : (17 votes)
    37 %
    Your husband-to-be : (11 votes)
    24 %
    Someone else : (4 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    My parent’s house was filled with guests and I was not sleeping on an air mattress so I made the decision to stay in the hotel room with my hubs. At first my Mom wasn’t too happy about it but in the end it was our decision and I absolutely do not regret it. We were able to spend our last night as singles together.

    Post # 4
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Maybe you could spend the evening with them, have dinner, reminisce, etc. then head over for a slumber party with your ‘maids?  i don’t think you should feel badly about wanting to spend the night with your girlfriends, especially since it’s not like your folks want you to come to the house you grew up in and sleep in your old bed etc.  Staying with them in a hotel is not at all the same.  Is this something your mom has been talking about for your entire life (ie: “oh honey, i can’t wait till you get married and we get to spend one last night together as a little family”)?  If she’s never brought it up till now you might want to ask where all this is coming from – perhaps she just really doesn’t want you to see your Fiance that night and needs reassurance that you’ll be with the girls instead?  Logistically, if you’ll be getting ready at the house with your bridesmaids, doesn’t it make more sense for you to sleep there, wake up there, and get ready there?  You’ll probably catch some extra sleep since you won’t have to transfer locations!  Maybe try that explaination…

    Good luck!

    Post # 5
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    605 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2010 - Ritz-Carlton, Half Moon Bay

    i think suffragette put it really well–maybe if you carve out some special time with just your parents before the wedding, in addition to allowing your mom to maybe tell you what’s really on her mind, your mom will feel better about you spending the night with your girlfriends. for example, maybe your mom feels like she is missing out by not being with you and the girls, and you could mitigate that by spending some one on one time with her before you go to hang out with the bridesmaids?

    Post # 6
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    10851 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I need an undecided option! I can’t make up my mind! I’m so used to falling asleep beside him, I find it hard to sleep without him. But on the other hand, a night apart would give a bit more anticipation to our day. I keep going back and forth on it.

    Post # 7
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    14186 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I stayed at my house (hubs stayed at his mom’s house) and my bridesmaids and my parents stayed at my house, too! We have 4 bedrooms so it wasn’t like we were bunking up on the floor, lol.

    Post # 8
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    606 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    My Mister and I just bought a house (it’s larger than my mom’s) so I am staying there with my mom, sister/MOH and my BMs.  Then my Future Mother-In-Law, FSILs (3 of them) and future neices/flower girls (5 of them!) are coming over the morning of to get ready together.

    I had booked a suit at a hotel but once we bought the house, I thought this would be a great way to save some dolla-dolla bills y’all!

    Post # 9
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    510 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I’m planning on getting a hotel suite to spend the night with my bridesmaids. He’ll survive without me, plus I steal all the covers everytime, so I know he’ll appreciate one last night without that happening!!

    Post # 10
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    3285 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2009

    I stayed at a hotel with one of my bridesmaids!

    Post # 11
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    1523 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I am planning to stay in the hotel with my bridesmaids.

    Fiance will either stay at his best man’s apartment or at the house of one of his groomsmen who lives nearby.

    I personally would not want to stay with my parents in a hotel room. For me this would be a stress fest which is the last thing I need the night before my wedding!

    Post # 12
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    4001 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Me and a few of my BM’s will be staying at my parents house.  Its more convenient because that’s where our rehearsal dinner will be, and we won’t have to lug all of our stuff somewhere else.  Besides, it cuts down on hotel costs!  Fiance hasn’t figured out where he’ll stay but that’s his deal, I’ve reminded him to handle it.  I don’t want him to just spring it on a groomsmen that he’ll be sleeping on their hotel room floor.  Its going to be really strange to be in the same town and not sleeping next to each other! 

    Post # 13
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I’m staying in my parent’s condo (it’s a destination wedding) with them and my younger sisters.  I’m actually excited b/c I’ve lived away from home for almost 2 years, so any time I get to spend with them is precious.  Plus, I think it’s kind of symbolic.

    Post # 15
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    620 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Fiance and I share an apartment so both of us are going to find somewhere else to stay.  I’m not sure where since my sister and her boyfriend will be at my mom’s house.  I might stay with one of my bridesmaids or at my nanny’s house.  Fiance has family coming from out of town so he was going to crash at somebody’s hotel room.

    Post # 16
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I stayed at home alone with my cat.  It was weird but I didn’t want anyone distracting me.

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