Post # 1
I just did a very rough outline for my guest list, and I know I am missing so many people, but it’s already up to 185. How did this happen?? My aunt just had an awesome wedding with 65 people and I have over 150!!
I know I will have to do some serious trimming, but I have a question about +1 and kids!
I have a ton of extended family, that’s what is making the list so long. I really don’t want kids at the wedding, but I would like really like to have my first cousins attend (there are about 5 of them under 18). Is it bad etiquette to invite my first cousins that are under 18, but not maybe 2nd cousins?? I am SO close to my 1st cousins, but not so much with my 2nd/3rd cousins… I really don’t know how this works!
I am also inviting some 2nd cousins (they’re sisters) who are in their early 20’s… One has been with the same guy for many years and the other is single. Is it okay to extend a +1 to one sibling and not the other??
I have only been to like 2 or 3 weddings in the past 10 years so I am deff not sure how to do any of this! Thanks!
Post # 3
Oh wow – you are inviting 2nd and 3rd cousins? Those were never on our list. Honestly, that where the cuts from your guest list should be. It’ll get out of control if you don’t!
Post # 4
i dont think if matters if they are 3 or 5th cousins lol.. it all depends on how close u are to them. if they are close to u then yes by all means invite them.. it can cost less if u choose a hall that allows outside catering n then have it buffet style
Post # 5
Invite the people you are close to, so that includes your first cousins who are kids, but not the second cousins. As for plus 1’s, if your cousin has been with someone for over a year, it’s fine for her to get a plus one but not your single cousin.
Post # 6
It’s just turned into an obligation thing where I have to invite all of my great-aunts/uncles (16 on mom’s side, 8 on dad’s side) and their children. I am inviting a few of the grandchildren (which is my generation), but I’m only close with about 10 of them.
I know the number is big, I’m hoping we can stay around 150… I am just worried about etiquette with kids and +1 since I know these are sensitive things.
We’re doing a sit down dinner (I just really don’t want to do buffet). I know, I know it’s going to be expensive, but my parents are helping me out a lot and so are my grandparents (which is why I’m not complaining about all the aunts, uncles, cousins etc).