Where did you meet your husband? 40 and newly divorced

posted 2 weeks ago in Married Life
Post # 16
2084 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I was divorced at 38 from the man who I considered my best friend and the love of my life. I was completely blindsided and in deep shock. However, I never thought I would be alone, and at 39 I met someone on Match who was so much better for me and with me than my ex ever was. We married at 44 and 45 years-old in October.

Post # 17
1228 posts
Bumble bee

claroquesi :  yes, I’m aware. And still, the time that passes between separation and divorce finalising can still be long enough to feel ready to get out and start dating again. 

Post # 18
86 posts
Worker bee

Amy Elizabeth :  We met on a dating app. I dont think it matters which one. The same guy on Match or eharmony is usually on Tinder and POF. Hes also the same guy you meet at a work function or through friends.

People are people so its just a matter of meeting them, knowing what you want, and not settling for someone who doesnt make you happy.

We married at 35 and I was single for many years after a divorce so yes I did get discouraged for a long time. However things turned out exactly as they were meant to. My husband is amazing and I am so glad I found him.

Post # 19
2659 posts
Sugar bee

My attorney’s office. I was going out, he was going in and he walked me to my car, which was in a multi level parking garage.

Post # 21
368 posts
Helper bee

My ex and I split up when I was 42. I decided to not date for a while. I was DEVASTATED. I never thought I’d find anyone my age, because all the guys my age want to date 30 year olds. So I decided to just be happy on my own. I volunteered at an animal shelter, I went out with friends, I have always been very dedicated to working out, I’ve been training for 27 years, so I was of course going to the gym every day. One day I was driving to work and realized “I am happy with my life” I got to work and told my coworker I was ready to start dating. She said “are you sure?’ I said “oh yeah, if some cute guy asks me for my number I’m giving it to him’ it was a Thursday. On Sunday my now fiancé struck up a conversation with me at the gym and as we were leaving the gym he said “I should get your number and we can work out sometime’ I completely froze and was like “some cute guy just asked me for my number!’  We went on one date and both just knew. He’s actually 5 years younger than me.

So my advice is to not think about dating immediately but take a little time to heal and be happy on your own, do what you love, and you’ll meet someone when you’re doing it. It’s not hopeless, but you need to be happy and healthy to be a good partner so take time to heal.

Post # 22
242 posts
Helper bee

Me and my husband both had been divorced before meeting each other online 🙂 we are now happily married and I’m pregnant!

Post # 23
476 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - City, State


Post # 24
474 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2018 - City Hall

I’ll be honest, divorce sucked but I never completely ruled out getting married again. 

At times I did feel discouraged because dating can be difficult.

I did not meet my husband through an app, but during a trip – he was my tour guide lol. 

Post # 25
47 posts

I met my FH at a party in college, which was shortly before tinder came out. The majority of my friends have met their significant others on tinder, so that’s probably what I would have used if I wasn’t with my FH. I know some friends that were on Bumble as well, and they seemed to like it.

Post # 26
644 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2018 - UK

My best friend introduced us. I’d been single for ages, so lots of friends had tried the “you should meet my friend, he’s single” thing, and I always refused their set-up attempts. My best friend didn’t take no for an answer, introduced us anyway, and now we’re married!

Post # 27
113 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I met my husband in a bar (me 28, him 35) – are we the last people on earth to meet that way? Possibly. It seems so quaint now. Plus it was not my usual thing either, I’m not the friendliest on nights out as guys are usualy gross when they’re on the pull – my RBF goes into overdrive and I positively emit ‘f off’ vibes. BUT, it happened that night and now we’ve been together ten years with a toddler. If I had to do that stuff again I think I’d go the hobbies route – you get to have fun doing the things you like, plus you  meet new people! win win:)

Post # 28
8428 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

Amy Elizabeth :  I met my husband on Tinder. I know it has a gross rep but I found it much better than other apps as you only talk to people you matched with rather than horrible randoms lol. 

Post # 29
9163 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

read aziz anzari’s modern romance.  he talks about dating today.  it’s really funny.

Post # 30
720 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: London, UK

University, we met during our first week as we lived in the same Halls. It will be 9 years ago next week.

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