(Closed) “Where did you send her STD” Uhh… I didn’t?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

That’s silly. On a side note, have you talked to this girl to ask her what her deal is? She sounds like she’s stuck in her own little bubble…

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Maybe it’s time to distance yourself from it all. I would call, leave her a message asking her to coffee to catch up, and if she doesn’t respond, maybe an email to follow up and then leave it be. It’s weird to me how girls treat each other like that randomly.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

You sound like me, haha. I’m just glad mine is kind of sorted out. This friend was orginally going to be a bridesmaid. I sent all my girls a nice letter letting them know why they were important to me, and asking if they would be my bridesmaid, I even put down detials on another card letting them know certain things like the flowers their boquets would probably be, the color of the dress I wanted them to get, and where from. (They could choose any syle they wanted.) and things like that. Well my 2 others girls answered me no problem like a week later, my other friend thought never did. I waited and waited for like 2 months, and then I was like alright, and facebook message her asking her if she got my letter. and she’s like “Yea I got it.” and I was like “Oh, okay good. I was worried it got lost in the mail or something.” and she goes “No I got it.” and I was like thinking to myself “and…..what’s your answer?” needless to say she never gave me an answer so I figure she doesn’t want to be a bridesmaid can’t afford it, etc. We use to be real close, and it makes me sad, and now whenever I post a wedding status on my facebook, she randomly tells me she misses me, and I am just like “REALLY?!” Everytime I have tried to make plans with this girl she is always busy hanging out with someone else, or is working, and working I can understand but if you miss me then I would take that was you want to see me, so why don’t you ever make the the time or the effort to make plans to get together. But you know what it’s okay. It’s her life she can do what she wants. I just wish she wouldn’t tell me she misses me, if she really doesn’t care.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

she sounds EXACTLY like the girl who immediately after I got engaged called dibs on being my Maid/Matron of Honor.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

forget about the mutual friend- i dont think id be inviting THIS girl to the wedding

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Cut her out.  Sounds harsh but sometimes you spend more time and energy on a relationship than the other party than that means it time to cut it. 

I haven’t posted anything about our engagement on Facebook due to the “friends” from high school and college that I never see, im, talk to but know that they think they should be coming to my wedding.  Arg. 

The guest list is the toughest to tackle.  Friends of mine no longer speak because they didn’t receive a STD when we did.  Ick.  Stuck in the middle is no fun.

 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Definitely be frank with her… people who have never planned a wedding (or directly been a part of the wedding planning process) have no idea what goes into it, especially that wedding invites aren’t a given!  Perhaps a friendly reminder that wedding invitiations are meant for people in your life to celebrate your marriage, not just a party invite. 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I have a friend from HS that we’ve always tried to stay in touch even though we live over 2k miles from each other.  I’m tired of always making the effort.  We haven’t spoken in forever.  I sent her a STD and no response.  I will send her an invite but I’m not expecting her to come.  If she doesn’t, I’m pretty much done.  I’m always the one emailing, calling, or texting with little to no response and I’m done with it all. 

Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Lol. This is why I am literally inviting ONE friend from high school – and she’s a BM! I got the same thing as soon as we got engaged the whole “Hope I get that invite soon!” I’m like….I haven’t seen you since I was 17? No? I just ignored ALL of those and did like a “Thank you!” haha. People can be so strange about weddings.

Anyways, I agree with PPs that I probably wouldn’t even be inviting “Jennifer,” much less “Sue.” They both sound rude. (Obviously Sue asked Jennifer to ask you). Eh.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Im with @TamiN. I people that havent planned a wedding have no idea how it works.  I actually had someone aske me last weekend, “Why havent I gotten my invitation yet.”  Sure she had a couple of cocktails but it was really awkward.  Without being too rude I mentioned that I wasnt invited to her wedding.  Too bad so sad.  The people that you are really close with and love will understand the process. 

@Pinkbubblegum, just enjoy your day and dont think about it too much. Your dramatic friend will hopefully understand one day when she gets married.  If not…what can you do.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Sounds like these two girls thought it was a big old party, not a wedding! I don’t blame you for being ticked off!

 

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