(Closed) Where did you start??

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
9916 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I would first find a venue.  That and the dress are where I started.  I recommend the website apracticalwedding.com, which has a lot of questions and answers, too.  


You should talk to your fiance about what kind of wedding you both want — how many people, what time of day, etc etc.  Then go from there!  Once you have your venue you’ll have a better idea of what you want to do to decorate it, etc.

Post # 4
5295 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

Decide what kind of day you want, and a budget. 


Big wedding or small?

Will you and your Fiance be paying or will parents be contributing?

Approximate # of guests


Then you can start looking at venues 😉

Post # 5
11271 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

definitely set a budget.  that may dictate the venue, the timeline, the dress, theme, guest count, etc.

Post # 6
10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

Pick a date! Then start venue shopping. Then photographer. Then dress.

That was my order anyway 🙂


Post # 7
3625 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I would get a tentative idea of the budget first. Are you a $10k bride or a $50k bride? It would be nice having an exact dollar amount, but we didn’t do that right off the bat, especially since we didn’t know how much these types of things cost.

Then I would pick a venue, or at least check out venues in the style that you like and then get an idea of how much these things will cost + what is included (tables, chairs, A/V equipment, etc.). Once you select a venue, you can put a deposit down and secure your date. When we first got engaged, everyone asked to see the ring and what the date was.

Post # 8
349 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

First on our list was finding a ceremony venue and second was photographer. Those were the two most important things to us. Now we are looking for a reception venue and an officiant, then I’ll start dress shopping. I think it’s different for everybody, it all depends on what is most important to you and your Fiance.

ETA I forgot to mention guest list, once we find our reception venue and figure out how many people we can have we will start sorting the guest list out – I’m not looking forward to that.

Post # 9
68 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I got engaged in April too, but I’m a planner and have booked a lot so far. First thing I did was create a guest list so I knew what size venue to look at and to budget meals (whether through the venue or catered) and to create a general budget. 

After that, I looked for venues that fit our needs and style. I used theknot.com to find a lot of venues. We found a great place we’re really happy with and booked it for next August, and it included all food, drinks and the DJ. It’s also our ceremony site. 

After that, I found the photographer because I knew I was going to be particular about the photography and didn’t want him to be booked. 

I’ve dress shopped a bit but I’m not as worried about it yet. 

I also booked our honeymoon because we were able to get a great “early bird” deal for it. 😀 

I also pin all the time, so I have ideas for everything else but have no intentions of doing any of it for a while. My goal is to check off a big item (dress, venue, photos, etc.) per month for the next few months. 

Good luck with everything, and congratulations. 

Post # 10
1423 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

First thing is first: discuss what your budget is with your Fiance. And then discuss what you both want out of your wedding.

Post # 11
726 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

The first thing for us was to pick a general location, which we then narrowed down. With guests coming from all over the world and all over the US, it was going to be a destination for a good chunk of people. Then I went dress shopping and we booked a photographer and wedding planner and got our engagement pics taken. This was the first year of engagement. Now into the second (and final) year, we’ve finally started doing things like getting the venue contracts and all that other stuff will start flowing from there. 

Post # 12
700 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Figure out where the money is coming from first. Are parents contributing? Are you and FH paying for it yourselves? Once you get an overall figure, use a budgeting tool like the one found on The Knot to see how the money usually gets spent. Start thinking about guest list (need a venue that can hold everyone) and overall tone/feel/vibe of wedding – Urban? Country? Vintage? Extravagant? Intimate? The options are limitless. I started reading lots and lots of wedding blogs to figure this part out. Search for “Top 100 wedding blogs” to get a list of the best – they update it every year.

Once you know your approximate price ranges, start looking at dates and locations (which can sometimes be dependant on each other). Book the venue, then caterer, and photographer. I think of those as the big three.

Post # 13
1595 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@AGTbee:  want to partner up? I’m from long island also and only have my venue and band picked out AND my wedding is 4 months before yours!!

Post # 14
2856 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@AGTbee:  Same here – after being engaged for 6 months, a lightbulb went off in my hand that I could go dress shopping so that’s where I started.

Post # 15
967 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Since my Fiance and I have been togethe 9 years we knew that we wanted a toronto maple leafs theme, about 80 guests, and he really wanted it at a golf course and I wanted it on the lake…..we also knew it had to be in the summer (because of my job)

So, we set the date…..set the theme….found a venue…and started working on other things

ETA:  I should say, we found a golf course ON THE LAKE within our budget….LOL…what is the chances of THAT?

Post # 16
6741 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I see that you’re in NY so you have to get a move on.  Things get booked up to a year in advance fairly quickly.

First:  Sit down w/ Fiance and plan on guest list and budget.  How many people total are you guys planning to invite and how much money are you looking to spend?  If parents/ILs are going to be helping out, find out how much. 

Then:  Venue for reception and ceremony.  Which will dictate your date.  Consider sending save the dates if you feel like it might be necessary (not always). 

After that’s all squared away, you need to book the rest of your vendors:  florist, DJ, photog, videographer, limos, etc.  AND the fun part:  wedding dress shopping!

Then you can get to the nitty gritty:  Bridesmaid or Best Man dress shopping, flower girl dress shopping, invitations, tuxes for the men, mom of the bride dresses, etc.

I would suggest going to a local B&N.  They have books there that help you plan and lots of them have books with a timeline – what to do 12 months before, 9 months before, 6 months before, etc.  This will probably help you out a lot!  I bought one of these for my 2 besties that are/getting married when I was in their bridal party as a little “engagement gift.”

Good luck!

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