Post # 1
I’m curious as to what other mamas have had success with. My first baby was NOT happy anywhere other than my arms, so I resorted to co-sleeping. I don’t mind that so much at night, but this time around with a toddler, new baby will need to at least take day naps in something else, if not sleep there at night as well.
I’ve had some friends who use rock n plays or momaroos, though I know those are technically a SIDS risk so it might not be worth it. I tried a co-sleeper crib with my first baby when we brought her home, but it was so huge compared to her I think she felt exposed and uncomfortable…so maybe something smaller like a bassinet makes more sense?
Open to any and all ideas, lol.
Also, what did your bedtime routine look like? I think part of the sleep issues I had with my first was my own inexperience. I have a few more ideas on how putting the baby to sleep should work this time, but I’m curious to hear what worked for y’all.
Post # 2
I thought it was recommended they sleep in something like a Moses basket
my daughter slept in a chicco next to me and it was fine
we didn’t really do a bed time routine until she was about 7/8 months but I think I contributed to her frequent wakings because I kept giving her the boob when she woke up so it started to become a habit
Post # 3
My son slept in a bassinet in our room for the first few months, then he slept in his crib in his own room after that. But I will say I was blessed with a good sleeper. From the very beginning I would rock him to sleep and as soon as he was out I would put him in his bassinet or crib and he just kept right on sleeping. He slept through the night at 6 weeks.
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2019 - City, State
Both my children slept in bassinets next to my bed. Never was I a co-sleeper. I figure if I started they would never want their own crib. My son was a great sleeper. My daughter was a horrible sleeper. But we got through it. I have a friend who did the co-sleeping thing and her daughter is 7 now and she still sleeps in her bed. But if it works for you.
Post # 5
Our baby slept in a bassinet by our bed until she was 8 weeks old, when we moved her to a crib in her own room. In the early weeks dh and I would take shifts, with dh downstairs binging Netflix with the baby til 3am when I’d take over and she’d come “sleep” in the bassinet next to me for the rest of the “night.” I think around 5 weeks we began a “routine” at bedtime, involving a bath, lights out, and white noise. After a couple weeks of that it finally became effective and she’s slept great ever since (minus a few leapy bad nights here and there)…but I think a huge part of that is just luck of the draw!
Post # 6
kiram : we had a Halo Bassinest for my first. He was a horrible sleeper regardless, I don’t think it had to do with the bed. But it was nice not having to get up when he woke up for the 70th time a night. When he outgrew we tried a pack and play, but he hated that so we moved him to his crib and sleep trained. Hoping number 2 will be a better sleeper when she gets here in 2 weeks.
Our bedtime routine was always bath, lotion, pjs, book and dark. Even as a newborn we did similar and just nursed to sleep in the dark then put down.
Post # 7
My kid was born with the ability to roll. I bought one of those fancy halo co-sleeper things and she just rolled into the side every time I laid her down in it and would end up with her face pressed against the side. The only place where she wouldn’t roll was either her swing or her rock n play. Her pediatrician decided the rock n play was the lesser evil as long as she was watched carefully so that’s where she slept the first 8 weeks. At 8 weeks we moved her crib into our room and she started sleeping there.
It’s risky, so I don’t recommend it.
Post # 8
Our kiddo started out in a co-sleeper in the middle of our bed. It was great for him, but stressful for me because every time his father turned over, I jolted awake like “DON’T SMASH THE BABY!!!” so for the next round, we’re considering a co-sleeper on my side of the bed.
Post # 9
My baby always slept in her bassinet in her room. If she woke up, I would go to her. Yes, I was a zombie some nights but I was never the co-sleeper type and I always hoped she would learn to sleep in her own room from the get go. She was a good sleeper most of the time, so I was lucky. She went from the bassinet to her crib and to this day, she is an excellent sleeper who has always slept in her own bed.
Post # 10
kiram : we used a halo bassinest for my daughter and it was great! Small, easy to get her in and out of for middle of the night nursing, and had a vibration setting that basically saved our lives. She moved to her own room at 4.5 months because she outgrew it and needed her crib. Daytime naps were either in a swing, snuggled on my chest, or occasionally in the bassinet/crib if I got lucky. Car rides/errands were good for naps too.
I’m the wrong person to ask about bedtime routines at that age. I nursed her to sleep for 14 months and then slid her into her crib lol. But she stayed down all night so I wasn’t about to change it!
Post # 11
keviah12 : I was never a fan of co-sleeping, either, but it was survival at that point. It was a rough transition to a crib (also why I’d like to avoid co-sleeping this time) but thankfully she’s been sleeping in her own bed since 4 months. I couldn’t handle sharing my bed for much longer than that, lol.
LilliV : That vibration thing sounds great, I’ll look into that. The allure of swings is the hands-free soothing, lol…getting the soothing aspect and the safety of a bassinet sounds like a solid option.
I know newborn sleep is pretty erratic, so I use “sleep routine” lightly. I just remember bringing baby home that first night and being like: “Welp, baby’s tired…so I guess I just put her in the crib?” If only it were that simple…after a couple minutes of crying, I just brought her into bed with me because all I wanted to do was snuggle, and not have to keep getting up all night while sore all over. Nowadays it’s like common sense that I need to feed, rock, burp, swaddle, etc. and then put the baby down when their eyes are heavy. Hearing other’s routines is still helpful though, since I’ve never done that with a newborn.
Post # 12
kiram : i had ours in a portable bassinet. When he was a real mess we did the swing (not technically what you’re supposed to do) and occasionally bed… usually if he wasn’t feeling good. He also had an heirloom crib in our living room (also causes online heart attacks). Now he’s nearly two, so he has a crib but still sleeps in our room until we can build an addition. And shares the bed if he’s really upset or has a bad cold.
Post # 13
My son (now 20 months) has been sleeping in his own crib in his own room ever since we brought him home from the hospital. I wanted to have him sleep in a bassinet in my room for the first few months, but he was such a noisy sleeper…we couldn’t sleep with all of his little noises! It has worked out well. He is a good napper and overnight sleeper. He knows that crib = sleepy time.
Post # 14
Both my kids slept in their own crib from night one. hey both liked to be swaddled as they both were premies, but they both were also great little sleepers.
Post # 15
- Wedding: November 2017 - France
In my culture we co-sleep so that’s what we did. It worked fine, my son is 5 now and sleeps in his own room since he was 3. We moved to France when he was 1 and only had one bed so he slept with us until we could get him his own bed.