(Closed) Where do Bridesmaids Hide??

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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1363 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Hahaha!  I clicked on this expecting a “how do I get away from my crazy bride friend.”  Sorry your Bridesmaid or Best Man is MIA.  I hope she orders the dress soon!

Post # 4
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2397 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Oh dear.  That stinks!  Maybe she is so embarassed she hasn’t returned your calls for so long that she is all together avoiding you?  Or maybe she wants to back out of the wedding, but is too nonconfrontational to do so.

Are you planning on keeping her in the wedding?  I would probably call her and try to give her an “out” so to speak.  Like, “I know you’ve been really really busy, so maybe it would be best if you just skipped being in my wedding.” Sorry you’re going through this, I would be really frustrated!

Post # 6
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1336 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I agree if she’s given you the run around like that maybe you should politely bring up her very busy schedule and how it might not be the best thing for her to be involved in the wedding. 

Post # 7
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1336 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Then if that’s the case I would remind her of how supportive you were for her.  Maybe the next message you leave her can go like this, “I was remembering how stressed/worried/etc. you were about blank, since you have experience with this, could you please help me out?”

Post # 9
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1260 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

My Maid/Matron of Honor can be like that sometimes – she is the HARDEST person to get ahold of! I mean, it only takes a minute to answer an email, yeesh. Especially since you were so supportive in her wedding. If you can’t get a hold of her and the deadline to order the dresses passes, I would just not count on her being in the wedding. Very uncool on the part of your friend!

Post # 10
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10218 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

that sucks :(… i think i’d remove her from the wedding to be honest with you, do you want this hassle until june?! i mean it sort of sucks but hey i’d just call her and let her know that you’re sorry you couldn’t get in touch with her but the deadline for the dress came and you cancelled her dress etc since you couldn’t get in touch with her, but you still hope to see her at the wedding and the showers. 

Post # 11
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8353 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

That is a very good question.

I think as soon as you ask them and they say yes, they go into hiding.

Post # 13
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83 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

It sucks that she’s treating you this way after all that you’ve done, but it appears that you should start asking someone to fill her place and forget about her. I personally don’t have patience for that type of behavior. No one’s twister her arm to be in your wedding and she has no right to put you in that position. You’re about to get married and you don’t need someone like that who appears to not be supportive.

There could be something going on in her life, but nothing that would prevent her from sending you a quick one-line email, text or something to let you know. For someone who doesn’t have consideration to respond to your calls, I think you need to eliminate her and not wait for her to drop out.

I’m sorry to say, but I think that friendship may be done.

EDIT: I just wanted to add that maybe you could see what happens by Saturday and if you don’t hear from her, consider her not in the wedding. It’s just plain polite to follow-up on something you agreed to do and if she doesn’t, I’d say move on to another girl to take that place.

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