(Closed) Where do I even start?

posted 5 years ago in Logistics
Post # 2
413 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Congrats on your engagement!

Just take a step back and breathe.  You don’t have to start planning right away. Enjoy your engagement for a couple of days and relax.  You and your Fiance have plenty of time.  Don’t overwhelm yourself. Consider your expenses now and consider the atmosphere that you’d like your wedding to have; it’d help determine the wedding budget.

Post # 3
1444 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Congratulations! Generally the first thing you should book is a venue (or 2 venues if you do the ceremony and reception separately), and looking at venues might make it easier to set a reasonable budget. And I found wedding checklists in website and app formats to be very helpful.

Post # 4
73 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2016 - Hazelton Manor - Vaughan Ontario

Congrats! I felt that way when I got engaged. I tried planning right away and it got overwhelming that I forgot to enjoy being engaged. If you’re not getting married within the next 12 months, relax and don’t overwhelm yourself. The first thing I did was book a venue for my reception and ceremony – that was my # 1 priority. As soon as I did that, I bought a few wedding planning guide books to help me keep track of things.

Post # 5
410 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

First off – congratulations on your engagement! 

I was exactly the same as you – within 24 hours of being engaged, I was creating a guest list, looking online when the next wedding expo was, and starting to think about how much money I was going to need. πŸ™‚ 

As the PP have said – don’t forget about enjoying your engagement. Being married is going to last years and years; being engaged won’t. πŸ™‚ 

The first thing I did was sort out my budget. Once you know how much you want to/can afford to spend, everything flows on from there. There’s no point looking at venues that are going to run you $10k – $15k if that’s what you need for the ENTIRE wedding. 

Sit down with your fiancee and work out how much you want to spend. Remember, “wanting” and “affording” are too different things. I’d like to spend $100k on a wedding – I could do it! But I can’t afford it. For us, we came up with a number we were both happy with and then added 10% to allow for additional funds. 

For us, our wedding budget is $40k AUD. Using that figure, we then worked backwards on what we were going to need. I’m sure there’s 101 lists online not to mention WeddingBee itself but we made some assumptions and went from there. 

For instance: 

Venue – 10k 

Dress – 4k 

Suits – 1k 

Rings – 5k 

Car – 1k 

Decorations – 5k 

Bridesmaids – 1k 

Celebrant – 1k 

Stationary – 1.5k 

Photography – 5k 

Music – 2k 

The above comes to $33,500. 

We could then go from there and work out how much everything was actually going to cost us as we checked out photographers (went roughly $300 over), venues (correct), celebrant (came under), suits (came under), dress (came under), etc. 

The budget is going to lend itself to everything like I said earlier. No point planning a 150 person event when you want an event at $150/head ($22,500) if your budget isn’t going to allow it. 

But also don’t stress about it. This is meant to be fun. 

It’ll be hard, and for me there has been wedding-mares (wedding based nightmares), tears, tantrums, weight gain instead of weight loss (damn my stress eating) and many a headache going through everything. But it’s also been a heap of fun. 


Post # 6
1552 posts
Bumble bee

Just relax and have fun before you do anything else πŸ™‚

Then think about your guest list and how many people you will invite. This will help you choose a venue, since they all have certain capacities. Shop around, everyone has their cons and pros. We chose a very inclusive venue which saved us a lot of money in the long run. Keep in mind that many “current” bridal gowns may take 4-8 months or longer to order. I personally purchased mine off the rack for a steal, since it was discontinued, just 3 months before our wedding.

Keep an open mind (concerning everything; venue, dress, food, decor, etc.), but be decisive and confident in your choices. It will save you a lot of stress.

Post # 7
729 posts
Busy bee

Honestly, just have a glass of champagne and take a few weeks to relax with your new fiance. Toss around ideas for fun. You have time.

Post # 8
405 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2006

to start venue for ceremony and vicar ect


then if you can’t or don’t want the reception in the same place that your thing to book.


Post # 9
4060 posts
Honey bee

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andreanb:  first of all, congrats! Like PPs have said, take a step back and enjoy the moment for a few days!

After that, budget. That’s the first thing you should do is decide on the budget. Theknot.com and weddingwire.com have great budget planning tools. Once you come up with your overall budget, it will break it down for you. ($X For venue, $X for food, etc) Then venue and food, in my opinion, are the next things to tackle. Those 2 sites I mentioned also have checklists with timelines that are very helpful. Best of luck and happy planning!

Also, my neighbor is an event planner and she sent me 2 helpful spreadsheets – 1 for guest tracking that has a formula to add the number of guests as you enter their RSVP as “yes,” and 1 for budget/payment tracking. If you’d like me to email those spreadsheets you, PM me with your email address. 

Post # 13
227 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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andreanb:  Depending on where you live you may need to get the ball rolling ASAP. I live in a major metropolitan area and started booking things 21 months in advance and was finding that dates and vendors were already booked up. If you are in a smaller town I doubt you would have this issue but it is something to consider. Figure out how you plan on paying for the affair. Is it just you and the fiance, is it one or both sets of parents helping? If parents are helping, have an open, honest conversation with them on what they plan on contributing. By knowing what you have to spend will help with the budget tremendously. Things get out of hand and add up QUICK! Then I would start with ceremony and reception venues. The rest will fall into place once you find out what venues you can afford. Obviously a really beautiful venue will need less decor and flowers, but a blank canvas will probably need more, so keep that in mind.  I know people say to enjoy your engagement, but for me because I have control issues (HAH! that’s an understatement) I needed to get all of my wedding planning done as soon as I could so I could relax the rest of the time (which I am pleasantly doing now, 5 months to go!) There was no way I could relax and enjoy our engagement knowing I had all this wedding planning looming over me, but that was just me. Good luck with everything!

Post # 14
729 posts
Busy bee

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andreanb:  I’m getting married in another country that doesn’t require such long-term planning, so I relaxed for a few months! πŸ™‚ Not saying you have to do that, but don’t just rush into planning and logistics — also spend some time being romantic and having a blast!!

Post # 15
729 posts
Busy bee

Botanical gardens sounds great! Congratulations!! Enjoy!

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