(Closed) Where do I go from here?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
498 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

maybe have Fiance use the GMs as ushers and not GMs….he could explain to them why (guys really do not care about titles…lol)…then you could just call the BMs off completely and tell them that you decided you only wanted to use FIs friends to seat and usher guests instead of having a bridal party to avoid drama.

my $.02.

Post # 4
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104 posts
Blushing bee

I can’t really say anything except i’m SORRY and i know how you feel! I, too, thought it would be so much better and easier to forget about the bridal party, but Fiance wanted some good friends of his to be in it.  I reluctantly agreed and now here I am two weeks before my wedding and one bridesmaid is BARELY even my friend, 3 of them aren’t speaking to each other(they’re Fiance sisters and can’t get along for some reason right now) and another is getting married right after me and instead of us sharing this great time, she decided it would be better for her to be bitter and show hatred toward me out of jealousy.  Only ONE of my girls is still a dear close friend of mine.  I totally regret the whole thing (bridal party, not the wedding) and if I could change ONE thing from this whole experience, I would either not have any bridesmaids or I would have picked totally different people.  We had a long engagement, so I picked my girls a long time ago and in that time, I’ve become so much closer with some friends that I wish I could make bridesmaids instead.  I didn’t have the heart to change anything months ago, so it is what it is for me.  Sorry I wasn’t any help, but I do understand! All I can tell you is do whatever you think is right! Good Luck.

Post # 7
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4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You DEMOTED someone because of financial issues and asked her to be your planner instead?! I would be so incredibly insulted. Seriously, can we get a more detailed explanation of why the heck you felt that was necessary? Because it just sounds mean. I have two bridesmaids who I’m paying for their dresses and everything because of financial hardships, but I’m happy to do it so that they can be in the wedding. It’s tough financially, I’m not ina  great spot either, but they’re important to me. I can’t imagine kicking them out of the wedding party then giving them the non-honor of being a free wedding planner.

 

The other stuff isn’t your fault at all…but this might be. If you’re choosing your wedding party based on who has money to throw a good shower, bachelorette, etc., rather than who is your nearest and dearest, there will be many problems.

Post # 8
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2550 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Sorry you have to go through all this drama.  That’s why I have soo few gf and more guy friends.   I decided to have a Maid/Matron of Honor only even though I have 3 sisters.  2 of my sisters are out of state and another is unemployed.  No drama cause my wedding is truly a family affair.  Everyone is helping out and happy w/ the role they decided on.

Your options: You can always have one less member of the bridal party.  Or you can ask your friend and explain the situation.(I would pay a portion or all of the new Bridesmaid or Best Man dress considering its soo close to the wedding.)

Also just tell your other Bridesmaid or Best Man their duties and tell them you don’t want to hear anything else from them.  Seriously, its time to be an adult and stop stressing you out.   

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