Where do I go from here?

posted 2 years ago in Christian
Post # 31
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1727 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I didn’t have the best luck onlinefor long term relationships.  I went on a lot of good first and second dates and met some nice guys.  I liked okcupid for the questionnaires and match percentages.  But the only guys I’ve dated for awhile are guys I met in person.  Maybe it’s my age(36). I met Fi while at a party for singles from church and we were friends for 1.5 years before I asked him out. Ironically he was on Okcupid too and we were a 99% match,  but I didn’t message him because I knew him IRL and it seemed weird. Give it time and try different things.  

Post # 32
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6863 posts
Busy Beekeeper

ldrstudent : But plenty of people do stay away from “hitting on” people in real-life (sober, in broad daylight) so as to avoid making unwelcome advances that could be perceived as odd, rude or creepy.

How about just getting out there in the world and meeting some people who could be friends and, over time, one of those people introduces you to someone else or one of those people turns into more than a friend…nobody is suggesting joining a group or taking a class to hit on people. Seriously. 

OP-focus on pursuing your interests and making a good life for yourself. I never met anyone worthwhile when I was looking, only when I was just me doing me and putting positive energy out into the world. 

Post # 33
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104 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Proverbs 18:22 Whoso finders a wife findeth a good thing, and obtained favor from the LORD. Stop looking for a partner. That was my biggest mistake. It caused me to be in a 16 year marriage that I shouldn’t have been in. The man that God has for you will find You. I know that is easy to say and hard to do but it’s true words. Work on preparing yourself for the right partner. God bless the awesome journey God has planned for you. 

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