Post # 1
I just recently got engaged, we decided though that we are going to wait for a little while before we get actually married. We want to be able to save up for the wedding so that we can be financially responsible for everything. Also, we want my son to be old enough to be the ring bearer. Anyway, I don’t know where to start. We’re probably going to be waiting 2-4 years to get married, but I don’t know where to start in the planning or how to even announce the engagement. HELP PLEASE!
Post # 3
I would suggest starting by flipping through bridal magazines and checking out some wedding websites. You’ll want to decide on the “feel” you want for your wedding (big or small, laid-back or formal, etc.). Budget, guestlist and location are the first biggies to figure out.
As far as announcing the engagement, how about having a BBQ or something at your place one night to share the good news?
Post # 4
Well it looks like you have the time frame figured out—-
I have a pretty long engagement (well long, for me) of 14 months so there was definitely no rush in doing much. I kind of like it that way too…. no stress, we can focus on stuff one at a time, and just enjoy being engaged.
As far as announcing, we had an engagement party… If that’s not an option, perhaps just have all of your friends meet y’all for dinner to celebrate (so there’s no obligation for y’all to pick up the entire tab).
You have a long time to figure stuff out which is great! Look around online, find out what colors you like, themes, time of year, etc. For sure the most important before anything though is to figure out your budget (and stick with it!). Weddings are expensive and you just have to prioritize what’s most important to both of you. I asked my Fiance to give me a list of the 5 most important things he wanted for the wedding and then we compared answers. You’d be surprised what they think!
Good luck and congrats!!
Post # 5
Oh and also, we took our engagement pictures within the first 3 months of being engaged, maybe contemplate if that’s something you would like to do?
Post # 6
Congrats! how exciting to be right in the beginning of planning!
I only have two words of advice, but I am sure the other lovely ladies have more to share with you
1. Set your budget first. Before you open a single bridal magazine (more to come on that later) Sit down with your Fiance and hash out what is a realistic wedding budget for you at this point. How much do you have to save, how much are you willing to spend on your one day etc. If you parents are offering to help ask them to sit down with you too. If you have SUPER close friends that got marrie recently ask them what kind of things threw off thier budget so you can be prepared. This doesn’t have to be a final list, it just has to be a rough ball park “We are looking to spend approximately _$_______ on our wedding” Remember that buget dictates EVERYTHING else.
2. Now start a list of priorities. Obviously groom+ring+family are first on the list (at least I would think so) For me the priorities were good food and a photographer, some people focus on the perfect venue, its up to you what your priorities are… Once you have a few priorities that you are not willing to compromise on look for rough estimates for those things in your area and set your budget around that….
My note on bridal magazines: (*Disclaimer* this is just what I feel and have witnessed, and certainly is not true for every bride but certainly some will agree, take with a grain of salt) Bridal magazines, bridal blogs, websites, and other things of the nature are only designed to sell you things. That is fine if you are willing to buy them. If you create your list of priorities first you can distinquish what you actually WANT to buy v.s. what you are only buying becuase you saw it in a cute magazine. There is some sort of crazy switch that starts to flip when people look at too many high scale weddings BEFORE they start to think budget and priorities and then they end of on the ’emotional’ board worried about how to pay for thier dream wedding. This might be a bit of a rant, but if you figure out what YOUR dream wedding is first before you are pressured in to someone elses dream wedding you will probably end up being a LOT happier…