Where do men get it in their heads that catcalling/commenting is a good idea?

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 76
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

I don’t like it when guys in their cars cat call at me… but I prefer it to when I’m on a train platform at night, or at a gas station, or walking home from the grocery store and it suddenly becomes “lets compliment the pretty girl and follow her down the road”

WTF GET AWAY FROM ME

The next time someone tells me to smile, i’m going to tell them the voices don’t want me to. I have RBF, I am a busy woman, I don’t have time to constantly smile for your benefit, sorry.

 

NOW I will say, I have been approached before (by attractive, and unattractive men) and paid a genuine compliment. Usually in a very public non threatening setting like at a coffee shop, or the mall, or what have you. In those cases I take the compliment willingly, smile and say thank you, because they’ve approached me nicely, somewhere safe, said something nice, and then WALKED AWAY. That’s an Ego Boost of kindness I can get behind.

Or when a gay guy compliments my shoes. day. made.

Post # 77
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287 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think it’s a numbers game. For every 19 out of 20 women who are turned off and disgusted by the catcalling, there’s going to be 1 who thinks it’s acceptable, charming or attractive. Or just doesn’t hold men to certain standards that the other 19 do.

sorry but I don’t get it. Are they looking for their lost pet? I think not. If they are attempting to get a self respecting woman’s attention, perhaps a hello or a non skeevy compliment might be a better approach. Just my humble opinion 🙂

Post # 78
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287 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

lmo013 :  yes! when a gay man tells me he loves my shoes, I feel validated haha.

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