Post # 1
While my fiance and I have only been engaged for a few months, it still hurts. We work different schedules, and only have a few days home together. I was informed last night by a friend, that my fiance had become active on a dating website recently. It was also brought to my attention by the same friend that he had been responding to personals ads on craigslist. The most recent response was a week ago. He told this person that he was in a relationship, but was interested in messing around on occasion. When I confronted him about it, he denied it, but owned up to it eventually, well, owned up to part of it.
We were separated for a couple of weeks in September, and during that two weeks, even his kids were trying to figure out what was going on. He’s previously told me that he has cheated in the past, with the mother of his children, but said that those days were over. Obviously, they aren’t.
Where do we go from here?
Post # 2
You leave him. It sounds like he won’t change…
Post # 3
“We” don’t go anywhere. You end the relationship and move on.
He has already cheated. You know that he’s completely willing and ready to cheat on you with everyone from his exes to random people he meets on the internet. He has shown you what kind of husband he’ll be.
Do you like feeling this way? Do you like having a fiancé that the word “cheater” accurately describes? Do you want to have a husband who could give you an STD that he got from some woman he met on craig’s list? I don’t think you do.
Leave him. Move on. There are better men out there; men who won’t cheat on you.
Post # 4
Unfortunately, he’s a cheater. If you don’t want to be with a cheater I think you’ve got to move on.
Post # 5
cgrubb1: I agree with previous postes. He’s cheated in the past and he’s cheating on you now. He will never change. You need to dump him.
Post # 6
As much as you wish you could, you can’t expect him to change. Unless you’re comfortable with wondering for the rest of your life whether or not he’s cheating on you, you’d be smart to ditch him. :/
Post # 7
There is no ‘fixing’ this.
Leave him, grieve the death of the relationship you thought you had, the loss of who you thought he was, and move forward.
Post # 8
Im sorry but I see nowhere to go except leaving him and finding someone who will treat you right
Post # 9
I am so sorry…. I remmeber reading either this story or a very similar story on the bee a few months ago, so I don’t know if this is a continuation. I would run for the hills and count it a blessing that this has all been revealed. He has someting going on and he needs to work through whatever that is and marriage won’t fix it. I think you will be more hurt in the long run. Marriage is serious.
Post # 10
YOU go on and heal your hurt, move on and make a happier life with someone who you can trust.
HE will not change no matter what.
Post # 11
Sorry to hear this. What a sucky situation to be in. You need to leave him though, he won’t change and you need to find value in yourself, without someone like that bringing you down.
Post # 12
ummm you dump him? You’d be a FOOL to marry him. He WILL cheat. You’re practically giving him permission if you stay with him after knowing all this.
Post # 13
Don’t marry him obviously – dump him and find a man that will be with you and only you!
Post # 14
You regret that his kids are suffering because of their scumbag dad, but you realize you can’t stay with him, and move on.