Post # 1
I read that you shouldn’t put the wedding registry on your invitation but where do you put it when the only thing you will be sending guests is the invitation. We don’t have a wedding website and don’t facebook or anything like that.
Post # 2
Is someone hosting a shower for you? It is fine to include your registry on shower invitations because showers are all about gifts.
If you don’t have a website, you can use word of mouth. Tell your families to share your registry information if anyone asks. Word of mouth has worked well for many years before the net was even a thing.
Post # 4
Then word of mouth it is!
Post # 5
I got little cards from the places that I registered to include in the envelope with my invite. Never heard of the word of mouth thing. It is common here to include that information somehow with the invite.
Post # 6
Apparently for a lot of people it’s considered extremely rude to put registry info in the invitation. I have never in my life received an invitation that did NOT have a registry card in it. Personally, I think it would be annoying to have to track down the info and appreciate the card. If I were you I’d ask your mom or some older relative what’s the norm in your circle.
Post # 7
Word of mouth.
To put registry info on an invite is basically telling your guests that you expect gifts. And since gifts aren’t required, you expecting them tends to come off as greedy.
And I am in the mindframe that registry info shouldn’t even be included on wedding websites. Webistes, to me, are just an electronic version of the paper invite. They both should include all the same information and neither should have any mention of gifts.
Post # 8
- Wedding: April 2016 - Country Club
You could make a simple wedding website and just put the registry on it, but when people google your name they should be able to find it on the big name brand websites.
Post # 9
I’m usually all for etiquette rules, but this one has always seemed impractical to me. Required or not – most people DO buy gifts for the bride and groom, and not including registry info is really just an inconvenience to the guests rather than a favor.
I almost always follow etiquette…but if you’re not going to have a wedding website, do your guests a favor and include a registry card. I’ve been to plenty of weddings where “word of mouth” would have been a wash, many of your guests don’t know each other. And if I’m asking the bride directly anyway…why not just skip that step?
Post # 10
Soooo just don’t have a registry then? Because if there is no way to tell guests where you are registered what’s the point of having one? I’ve read the mother should be telling guests but what if you have divorced parents and/or a bunch of guest who barely know each other. If I asked my mom to tell everyone it’d be super awakard for her. She’s halfway across the country and doesn’t get along or personally know a lot of my family and barely knows my SOs.
OP I think a small card in the invite is okay, but if that seems too rude, I think best approach is a small note about wedding info can be seen at the website link, and then put the registry info there.
Post # 11
You spread it via word of mouth when someone asks you about it. The only place where it is acceptable to advertise it is on your shower invite since showers are primarily gift giving occassions.
Post # 12
If you do not have a wedding website it has to spread by word of mouth.