Post # 17
We’re both within a half hour drive to our home towns and the majority of our family members. It’s really the perfect location for us. We’re close enough to where we’re able to see everyone whenever we want but far enough away so we don’t have any “just passing byers”.
At one point I was okay with relocating temporarily but now that we’re getting older and thinking about a kid in the next few years, it seems like that oppertunity has passed. It’s very important to be around family when we reproduce so staying local is a must.
Post # 22
I grew up in a small neighborhood in NY where it’s really rare people leave the area, but my father’s job moved us to MD when I was about 11/12. We do have some family in the MD area but I went away to school in WV which feels like home now too to an extent, especially since the majority of FI’s family is in WV. I’m pretty much up to move anywhere, and Fiance is thinking about switching from Army to Coast Guard so that’ll move us around and possibly make it harder to decided. I’ve always wanted to move south to the carolinas, georgia or florida areas.
Post # 23
I live in the same school district that I grew up in and graduated from. Fiance graduated from here, too. And I HATE IT. I always pictured myself living south or west of here. I never thought I’d end up moving back and getting stuck here once I graduated high school.
We’ll be moving out of our hometown sometime before September 2013 (I refuse to let my daughter start kindergarten in this crappy school district) but we’ll most likely end up staying in western Pennsylvania our whole lives. Both of our families are here and Fiance is very close with his family. I never wanted to live close to my family, and now I have to deal with the fact that I’ll be around them for the rest of my life. It’s a tough thing to wrap my head around.
Post # 24
We both grew up in the same county, had mutual friends growing up, and somehow we didn’t meet until college 100 miles away – crazy, huh?
So, our families are in the same area. Right now, we’re living there, but that will be changing this summer when we move with the military. Eventually, we’ll probably move back home to raise our children, but who knows when that will be.
Post # 25
We live 3 hours away by train from my home in MD. We live about 40 minutes by car from FI’s home in NY. We’ll probably end up picking one place or the other to live once we have kids, rather than moving to a new state altogether.
Post # 26
My parents are 6.5 hours away. My sister is 4 hours away. His parents are 45 minutes away and his sister is 20 hours away.
It’s hard being far from my family and close to his because we find ourselves seeing his family at least once a month and my family only a handful of times a year. It’s also hard for him to get weekends off and so I am often heading up north to see my family without him. He’s currently looking at a job that could move us much further away from both of our families. That’ll be hard, but it’ll (hopefully) be temporary.
Like you said- as long as you have eachother you’ll be happy. But family makes us happy too. Is there any flexibility in your location? Could you spend another 3-5 years in San Diego and then move closer to a family then?
Post # 27
I grew up in Louisiana and now live in TN.. Fiance is from here so we are close to his family and not mine.
We talk a lot about settling down on the Gulf Coast before it is all said and done, we will see 🙂
Post # 28
We are both from WV and moved to Myrtle Beach SC totally voluntarily (I telecommute so I can be anywhere) in 2010. Our family is 8 hours away but in the summer they do cheap flights. We love it! Unless Fiance does travel nursing some day, we are lifers…and even if he does this is where we will keep our home and retire!
Post # 29
We live two hours away from our families now, but are moving in July two states over. It’s bittersweet – we are excited but will miss being within reasonable driving range of our families!
Post # 30
I moved to a big metro area after high school to attend college. I met my Darling Husband there, which is where he was born and raised. I stayed in the area for about a decade,but once we realized there was no way we would ever be able to own a home there, we decided to move. We moved back to my hometown, where our mortgage is cheaper than our previous rent, so we could own a home and be closer to our nieces. There are times I miss big city life, but I love getting to go out to dinner with my parents in the middle of the week and it’s awesome being able to play an active role in my nieces lives.
Post # 31
@pinkshoes: I definitely understand how you feel about the price of homes in MA compared to TX, thats actually one of the huge things we talk about when decididing if we will move in the next 3-4yrs. I actually have family in both MA and TX and he only has family in MA.. so I am pretty sure MA will win. Regardless, I love the old homes there.. they’re always so beautiful.
@Take The Reins: Kids is the #1 reason I am even considering all of this. It might seem silly since we’re about 5-6yrs out from even beginning to try. But, my boyfriend works in government and he wants to stick with federal.. I dont want to ask him to give up his dream (although, he’s definitely willing) unless its the last resort for him to do a career change. I just want to know if we can be happy somewhere other then family. The good thing is, San Diego is GORGEOUS and so its not like it will be hard to love the place. I am hoping to make good friends, and hope he will too but you never know.. Its not always that easy.
@Roe: Where in Texas? Maybe I will live vicariously through you! 😛
@missashley884: Haha! If we end up moving out there, I am going to have to get lots of great advice from you! My boyfriend is realtively familiar with San Diego, but I need to know good places to go! Like the Yard House (mmm!) or a place for good sushi!
@subbywife11: That is crazy! I dont have a similar situation.. but ever since I knew my family actually came from Massachusetts and I started visiting them yearly.. I fell in love with the Boston accent.. and for whatever reason ive always loved the name Michael.. so since i was a little girl (like 9) I’ve always said I would marry a boy from Boston named Michael… (AND I GET TO!! ^_^)
All you ladies are so wonderful! I really appreciate all of your feedback!
ps. My huney just told me he snuck on here to read all of your posts whileI was at class! He also thinks you guys are great! : )
Post # 32
I grew up in the very southern part of Illinois, then moved to the southern tip of Indiana and am now in Northern Illinois. My family is all still in southern illinois, Darling Husband is in southern indiana. yes, I prefer it that way. Not sure how I will feel once we have kids (God willing)
Post # 33
I grew up in St Louis and most of my family is near Chicago. My SO and his family live in South Carolina, where I did my undergrad. Right now I’m in NC for grad school. When I finish my master’s (SO will be graduating with his master’s from USC in May!), we will probably stay in the southeast.
Post # 34
@Excited To Bee: Austin! Though I agree, the homes in MA are stunning. The texas ranches may get a bit old…
Post # 35
An ocean away! My whole family but my parents and brother live in Europe. I lived there until I was 10 but then moved to Canada. I always feel so left out in coversations about pop culture before 1994! I wasn’t here, and even once I was I didn’t speak any English for a few months.