Post # 1
If you look on theknot.com today, one of the popular boards posts is regarding where to seat the wedding party’s SOs. I have never been to a wedding (although I’ve only been to a few, and only one in the last year) where the wedding party is seated with their significant others if the SO is not in the wedding party. My mother being very traditional (for example, she says that although other people can do it however they want, the “real” traditional and right way is for her and my dad to pay for the wedding, lucky me! lol) I know my mother will not want to do an untraditional setup. But according to this post, SOs need to be seated together? I have to BMs with SOs that will be at the wedding that I know of so far. I had assumed that my sister’s boyfriend would sit with my parents and my other sister and her boyfriend, and the other boyfriend would sit with his girlfriend’s family, whom he’s flying in with. The dinner/tosts are literally the only time that the boyfriends cannot tag along with us though! They’re welcome to drop by while getting ready, take pictures with us (although they won’t be in all of them), etc. None of the Groomsmen have “serious” girlfriends, so my mother and I had discussed that it would look a bit strange to add just two boyfriends to the head table. But who really cares if I am being rude. (Edit to say that all of the things they CAN do won’t matter so much if I’m still being rude. That’s how that’s meant to sound. Lol.)
So I am asking you bees, where are you sitting your WP’s SOs?
Post # 3
I had seats next to my Bridal Party at the head table. (But we only had a Bridesmaid or Best Man and a Maid/Matron of Honor so it wasn’t a ton of people.)
Post # 4
we are having them sit with them.
we are not having a long “head table” but rather a sweetheart table and 2 other tables for the bridal party and their SOs that is next to the sweetheart table 🙂
Post # 5
I would be annoyed if I wasn’t seated with my date. If the date is important enough to receive an invitation, I think they’re important enough to seat with their SO.
Of course, with huge bridal parties this doesn’t always work out. But at least make sure you seat the SOs by people that they know and like well.
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2009 - Ceremony: The Kraine Theatre, Reception: Midtown Loft & Terrace
We sat all of our bridal party’s SOs with them. This is just my personal feeling on the matter, but I’ve been to weddings where I was a bridesmaid and Mr. Star wasn’t in the bridal party and it really bugged me when we got split up unneccessarily (for example, it never bothers me to have “girl time” that doesn’t include our guys like in the morning getting ready, but why can’t I sit with my date during dinner?).
Again, I know it’s traditional for the bridal party to sit all together without their dates, but we didn’t do it that way because it’s one of my pet peeves. If it’s really important to you to split them up, then go ahead and do it, but know that you might be bugging one of them!
Post # 7
We will be seating our bridal party at their own table as long table and their SO/dates will be seated with them. I would feel kinda weird and a little upset if I wasn’t seated with my SO during dinner. My Fiance was in a wedding last fall and they the bridal party split into smaller tables and the dates sat with them and it was a blast! I loved being able to talk to all their friends and the dates!
To me this is traditional, I’ve always heard it this way. Good luck!
Post # 8
Sapphirebride-I totally agree! I would be so mad if I wasn’t seated with my date! This is why we are doing the sweetheart table too! I think this is the best idea! That or you could do a big table where all the people in the wedding can still sit with their dates!
Post # 9
We will seat SO with wedding party….all the weddings I’ve been to have done so.
Post # 10
When my ex was in a wedding, I sat with his parents and it was fine. I was with him the whole day except during the ceremony, dinner, and toasts. I was actually glad for it because I got to know his mom pretty well that day.
Post # 11
Personally, I have never been to a wedding that the SO sat with the wedding party member. I have always just seen the head table with the wedding party and the SOs would be placed elsewhere (like with friends or family).
Post # 12
I’ve been to weddings where the SOs join the Wedding Party, b/c often, they’re all good friends. I’ve been to weddings where only the siblings of the bride/groom are at the head table & the rest of Wedding Party (along with SOs) are seated at a table or tables close to the head table. I’ve been to weddings, like @krissybee’s, where the bride & groom have a sweetheart table & the Wedding Party is seated at two tables nearby. I like the last one quite a bit (everybody gets to be with their loved ones; which I think is a nice underscoring of the reason why we’re all together that day) & it seems to be rather popular lately (5 of the last 8 we’ve been to have done their seating like this).
We’re doing something untraditional: Wedding Party will sit with their SOs (only the Best Man isn’t married) & we will sit with both our sets of parents at a family table (along with my unmarried sister & her best friend, & FI’s married bro – he’s a Groomsmen – his wife & baby daughter). Again, we thought this would underscore being with loved ones & highlight all the stages of marriage that we hope to experience, all at one table.
Post # 13
I’m planning on going fairly untraditional in this aspect. We’re having a head table with me and Fiance, our parents, my brother, and FI’s brother and sister-in-law, all of whom are in the wedding party. I’m splitting up the rest of the wedding party among various tables, because my bridesmaids are all good friends of mine, but most of them don’t know the other girls very well, if at all. I think my bridesmaid who’s my friend from high school will have more fun at a table with my other hometown friends, while my bridesmaid I met in law school will be happier at a table with our other law school friends. The groomsmen/ushers will be split up some as well, although many of them do know each other. Everyone will be seated with their dates – I know that I personally would feel uncomfortable being separated from my date for much of the evening, so I don’t want other people to feel the same way.
Post # 14
Wow thanks for all the opinions, ladies! 🙂
I never knew! We don’t have a huge wedding party, but I thought it might look strange because it’s not like everyone would have an SO…just two girls. And the lady at the hotel/venue had said in their weddings usually just the Wedding Party is in the head table. But now I might have to change that. We’ll see. It’s not like they’d be all on their own, and it wouldn’t be for a long period of time. I certainly wouldn’t expect to be at the head table if my fiance were in a wedding but I guess that’s just me!
Post # 15
I had a Bridesmaid or Best Man table and Groomsmen table and for us we had a sweetheart table. SO that were associated with family, sat with famiy. SO that were associated with friends saw at a SO table that was very close the Bridesmaid or Best Man and Groomsmen table. After the first dance I let the wedding party change seats and sit with their significant others.
By the way, I had 8 gm and 8 bm, so it was a bit difficult to figure out the best arrangement. I considered a long ass head table but didn’t like that I wouldn’t have any association with my bm at the end.
Then I considered a teired table arrangement. So some gm and bm would sit right behind me. Decided against this because it cost $100 to rent the stage.
Then considered a captains table, so the whole wedding party would be sitting with us. But then the SO would be not close the wedding party.
Yeah, so best choice for me was the bm table and gm table with us at a sweetheart table. And a SO table.
Post # 16
We are doing the sweetheart table with two tables for the bridal party. Date/SO will be seated at those tables with the bridal party. I saw this for the first time at FI’s brother’s wedding and I appreciated it so much because it was my first time meeting his extended family. I didn’t know anyone at the wedding (other than Fiance, his brothers and his mom) and it was so nice to sit with him during dinner. That is just my personal preferance tho.