(Closed) Where do you wait when someone has a baby?

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

If it was my sister–I would be at the hospital!!! IF it was a close friend, I would probably go to work and wait til afterwards to see baby.   With most people, I send flowers, wait a week and then stop by their house to meet baby.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

If I have the option, I stay at the hospital! = )

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

If it were me asking, I’d just ask the couple having the baby what they prefer.  I know I don’t want anyone at the hopsital when I’m having the baby, but my SIL would love to have all the fam around (by around, I mean at the hospital) when she has her baby next month…So a safe bet would be just asked the couple beings every one has different wishes.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I’m really hoping to be at the hospital when my SIL gives birth in November.  I think for immediate family it isn’t weird at all to be at the hospital, though if for whatever reason my SIL doesn’t want anyone there, I’ll respect her wishes (and secretly pout about it on the side).

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I would personally go to work and then go by and visit afterwards…unless I was the labor coach. WAAAYYY back when I had my daughter (she is 12) people sort of meandered in and out as they got from work, etc. The only people that were there consistently was her father and my sister…b/c they were actually in the room during delivery. I figure the people waiting can’t really contribute anything and can be just as excited at work or at home.

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

We waited for my SIL to have the baby and be home. 4 days later we came and visited. We didn’t want to be overbearing and my Mother-In-Law said to give her a couple days and we were perfectly ok with that. She’d had C naturally, no medications (she came fast!), had an episiotomy and was really sore–had trouble sitting, etc. I really don’t want everybody at the hospital when i have a baby; i want to be home first.

I haven’t heard of everybody taking off work to go be with her when she had the baby. It’s a little foreign to me. Everybody visited afterwards, in the home.

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

It’s not common with the people in DH’s family i know, but I could see a few of my frends having sisters and everything there.

I’m surprised your work made such a big deal of it. It doesn’t seem weird to me–some sisters are very close! I just remember Darling Husband going “heck no, why would we go to the hospital?” when i asked if we should go to the hospital when we found out she started laboring.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

If it were my family, I would wait in the hospital waiting room. If it was a great friend or someone like that, I would wait patiently at home/work/etc until after the baby was born and things settled down a bit. From experience, I know what it is like to have tons of people there right after your baby is born, and it sucked! I just wanted some time with him.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

I am an only child but if it was my sister I would be there!  If it is my best friend I would be there, so I didn’t see anything wrong with it.  I find it interesting that work gave you flack for it, it’s your family! My family would definitely be there waiting and I would want them to be there.

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I would be in the waiting room (but not in the delivery room).

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

My friend is in labor right. this. minute. and I’m at work.  I figure I’d just be sitting in a chair twiddling my thumbs while she does all the work, so I’m just finishing up my work day and then I’ll head to visit her when she has a newborn I can cuddle.  We talked about it quite a lot and both decided this was the best option for us.

If it were my sister, I’d be there.  She’d need me, I think.  However, when my brother’s wife had her babies, I pretty much showed up the day they were born because my brother and his wife don’t always let us know what’s going on with them! 

I think you should be wherever you’re comfortable and feel like you should be.  Well, as long as you’re allowed to be there 🙂

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I got flak for wanting to go be with my SIL when she gave birth – she went into labor and landed an entire airline for goodness sake. I was incredulous that I got so much resistance, too. I wouldn’t miss work for an aquaintance, but I’d want to be there for a close family member.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I missed work when my sister had her baby. I was in the delivery room. Funny thing was I was already scheduled to be off that day. Everyone else I visit sometime after they are home from the hospital if they are close bye.

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