(Closed) Where does a wedding fall on your priority list?

posted 5 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
1856 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Our wedding was like… Negative ten on our priority list. We did it super small. We would have done the bare minimum to make it legal but our parents and daughter requested a bit more. Personally, we have a lot of other things that we feel are more important than a big fancy party.

Post # 4
2490 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

Hmm… Good question. Being married was important to us more than anything else and we did consider just going and doing it at city hall. We decided to have a wedding though because we wanted our family and friends to celebrate with us and we want to treat them to a nice dinner as a thank you for always being there and supporting us. 


However, we are already established with a home and careers and this wedding is not breaking the bank at all. If we didn’t already have a house, savings, careers, etc then the wedding would not be important. 

Post # 5
724 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

FH and I are in our mid/late 30s so the wedding is a high priority for us right now. He already owns a house, we have 3 cars, no student loans, etc etc. We are just in a different place than a lot of Bees. With that said, we aren’t having a huge affair because other important things are in the works too: a kitchen remodel, building a deck, and travel.

Post # 6
644 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Low priority for me. Getting married is high priority, but having a wedding? Meh. I would’ve been happy to just elope. But Fiance wants to have a wedding with friends and family, so we are doing that. Keeping it pretty small though (around 35 people).

Post # 7
4035 posts
Honey bee

@MrsPanda99:  Our wedding would fall at a 5 out of the top 8 financial goals on our list:

1. Emergency Fund (checked off-already have 12 months saved up)

2. Retirement contribution (both of us contribute 10% of paychecks)

3. Pay off student loans (half way there!)

4. Save up for house downpayment (have about $10k saved up)

5. Have a wedding

6. Build up general savings (no definitive goal…just the habit)

7. Buy new car (mine should last for another 3 years–crossing my fingers)

8. Save up for a long vacation to Europe


Fortunately, of our $10k budget for the wedding, we are only paying $3k. My parents were very kind and generous to contribute the majority. We could easily afford the money and it wouldn’t seriously detract us from our other goals. Also, we have been dating for almost 10 years (on August 22) and love the idea of getting married/having a wedding right before our decade anniversary.

I know it is tricky to fit things in when there are multiple financial goals, but we found it to be doable and enjoyable to celebrate with friends and family. Also, this will be the first time in about 5 years that my entire family and his entire family will be together. To me, relationships are invaluable, so the money is definitely well spent and the occasion will be well worth it. 🙂

Post # 9
8444 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think a wedding was a higher priority for our parents than it was for us.

Post # 11
2602 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

It’s low on the list. I’m waiting on the ring, but we already know how we are doing it. Small civil ceremony with immediate family and dinner with them afterwards. The one thing that is important to us is to have a honeymoon. It doesn’t have to be anything exotic, but a couple of days away and alone is definitely a non-negotiable requirement to me.

I’d be equally okay with going to the JoP and then immediately leaving on a honeymoon, but I think it’s important to include our parents and siblings, especially since we will be the last siblings to be married in both of our families.


Post # 12
722 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@MrsPanda99:  Since my father is paying, I do not have to worry about putting the wedding before anything else financially.

Planning wise, school comes first. It always comes first.  

Post # 13
14567 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

It’s low on the priority list, but we have our other goals checked off and over all positive net worth so paying for the wedding wasn’t even a really big deal.

Post # 15
4313 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

It wasn’t on a list at all, financially or otherwise.  That’s why we eloped.

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