Where does the Mother of the Groom get ready??

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Newbee

Just wondering, if you also think your mom says snarky and off putting things to your Future Mother-In-Law, how come you’re not approaching her about it? Let her know it makes you feel uncomfortable when she does it as that will be your Mother-In-Law. Say it will make you so happy and mean a lot to you if she can be a little more civil so everyone can just get along. Maybe your mom doesn’t even know she’s doing it, which would make it even more imperitive that you tell her. 

As for your Future Mother-In-Law, is she someone you can easily talk to? If you guys are still more like acquaintances, just let her know that you will be getting ready with just your mother and your bridesmaids as is tradition in your family(a little white lie can’t hurt). Or just tell her without the white lie, but invite her to see you when you are ready. That way she won’t be there the whole time, but can still be somewhat part of the “girls” and see you before the groom does

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I don’t think the groom’s mom usually gets ready with the bride anyway. I’ve been a bridesmaid 10 times (no kidding) and I’ve never seen it. THe groom’s mom is usually busy with her own family. I don’t think it’s going to be a problem for you, unless she’s already said something that had made you think she’s planning to get ready with you?

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper

Err you should probably tell your mom not to be a POS towards your new family…

That said, she got ready at her own hotel room. My mom got ready sorta with me (had HMU done elsewhere). But seriously, you need to rein your mom in, saying that kind of shit is NOT COOL and your husbands family will notice and will resent it. Just because someone had a rough life doesnt give them permission to be a bitch to other people. 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Yea I’m going to second PP above.. My DH’s mom got ready at her house with his dad and then they went over to my house where Darling Husband and the groomsmen were to take pics with them and help them out on their boutineers.. That’s usually normally what happens on the day of in my circle

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

My Mother-In-Law got ready with me and my bridesmaids and my mom plus some other female relatives. But we rented a huge house to get ready in so it was very much the more the merrier! I don’t think it’s the norm or expected that your Mother-In-Law will get ready with you on your wedding day.

But maybe you could have a chat with your mom? Getting ready isn’t the only time they would potentially be around each other during wedding events. What about the rehearsal dinner or the reception? It might be good to talk with your mom rather than trying to keep her away from your in-laws.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

huisinjj :  Personally I wouldn’t want either of them in there but you want your mother so that’s perfectly valid. No-one is going to bat an eye that the bride’s mother is with her!

The mother of the groom would usually get ready at her home or hotel room. It is not of your concern.

Post # 8
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Helper bee

I don’t think the grooms mother usually gets ready wilth the ladies… she would be with her husband and son (groom) then she arrives at the venue early as well. 

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper

Extra thanks to the people who were able to reply without putting down my mom.

You mean sticking up for your FIs family? Ok lol. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee

Stop excusing your mothers behaviour. Imagine the tables were turned and your Mother-In-Law was being nasty to your family?! Good grief. You may avoid your mom being rude during your getting ready time, but she will be rude and embarrassing at your wedding. That won’t make for such good memories now, will it? Good luck with that!

Post # 14
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Busy bee

I just want to say sorry some people are being so rude about this.

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