Post # 17
Our wedding party will be seated with their dates. I attended a wedding in which my Fiance was a groomsman and they had a head table so I didn’t get to sit with him. I hated it.
When I was a bridesmaid in my cousin’s wedding, they had a sweetheart table and we all got to sit with our dates. She said that it was actually really nice to have a table to themselves because it was the first time they had been able to talk to each other all day!
Post # 19
Ours will be seated out at guest tables with people they know. We only have 2 wedding party members this applies to though.
– GM’s wife: They just got married in September and they did it this way too (FI was in the wedding), so no worries there. She knows and is friends with about 40% of the guest list too.
– BM’s husband: He willl be seated with his inlaws (who he likes), and he will also be taking care of their 2.5 year old. No way was I putting a little kid at the head table.
I don’t *love* head tables, but as a guest at a wedding, I appreciate them so I can have a focal point and see the wedding party. I thought through the other options (sweetheart table, king’s table, including those two at the head table) and liked them all less than a regular head table given our specific circumstances.
Ultimately, my goal is to minimize time at the head table – toasts, dinner, and then we are all out mingling the rest of the night. It should be under 40 minutes. So I am not worrying about it much.
Every wedding except one I have been to has done it this way, so I am not sure if it is regional that there are so many other answers?? The other one had sort of a square king’s table in the middle, and while it looked cool, as a guest I hated that I couldn’t see the Bride and Groom during a lot of the toasts/dinner. I thought it was sort of awkward that the whole wedding party had their backs to at least half the room.
Post # 20
we decided against having a head table. we thought a sweetheart table would be best; it helps avoid that issue, and gives us time to actually spend alone, and enjoy our food.
Post # 21
FH and I will have our own table (I’m hoping) but the tables that the bridal party is sitting at will have seats for their SO’s and kids as well. I don’t want families to be broken up during dinner so I am doing it this way. It’s especially hard to do the “normal” head table since some of the bridal party are married to each other and have children. Wouldn’t want their kids sitting at a table without their parents!
Post # 22
Please do not separate your bridesmaids and groomsmen from their SO or dates. It is so annoying and extremely awkward. Have the SO or dates sit with them.