Post # 1
Hi fellow waiters!
From reading the posts, I’ve noticed we’re in a few camps here. Which one are you in? And, any advice for those that are a little more on edge than others?
I’ll start, I’m in the “I know he has the ring and has spoken to my dad” camp. That’s a big deal. We have a meeting with a priest a week from today… and I kinda think he’s going to do it before then. I’m on pins and needles excied about this.
For waiting bees… I remember the agony of “will he or won’t he”, and I got through it just by being blunt and saying “i love you, I’d like to talk about marriage”, and it did the trick. I know it won’t work for everyone, but it offered me a LOT of comfort and def. got me out of the “will he won’t he” anxiety.
Post # 3
@kimbean: Same! He’s spoken to my family and the ring is hidden in our flat – if he makes me wait much longer I will be bouncing off the walls!
Post # 4
My BF’s had the ring for over a month now, but I don’t think he’s talked to my family yet (though he had the perfect opportunity to Monday… grrr). Waiting is getting frustrating! Lol
Post # 5
@kat2014: We can only do our nails so many times in a week!
Post # 6
@kimbean: The sad thing is I’m sitting doing my nails while stalking the Bee right now :p – my nails have never looked so good!!
Post # 7
I really wish I knew if he had the ring but he’s so damn secretive! (in a good way, lol) I do want it to be a surprise… 😛
Post # 8
I’m honestly not sure. We had a chat a few months ago where I said it had been long enough and I needed a reasonable timeframe. He said he could do it within 6 months, but I’ve seen no action and we’re nearly halfway through. I guess it’s possible he’s just been very stealthy about it, but I’m not holding my breath.
Post # 9
I’m in the same boat as you: I know J put the deposit down on the ring on September 1st, and he has spoken to my dad (asked permission) on September 4th. The only thing I don’t know, is if he has it in his possession yet. It’s been 4 weeks, so I’d imagine he either has it by now, or he’ll be picking it up this week. *Fingers crossed*
Post # 10
I picked “We’ve spoken about it but I’m not sure if he’s ready”. This is partially true. We’ve spoken about it a lot. We have colors picked, we’ve talked about party members, what we want in a ceremony, etc.
About 9 months ago we went and looked at rings. Which is like a long time! haha! We are going to design my ring. I asked him basically what was the hold up, and at first he said “A little timing, a little I’m not ready yet, and a little money”. In the last month that has changed to “basically money”. (We both graduated in May, he has a good job, we live in a cheap area, but I don’t have a job yet. We also have a couple thousand dollars in credit card debt that we want to pay off first.) So this is progress!
He recently told me that we would “probably start to design my ring (with a designer, I already know exactly what I want) after Christmas.” I said that this was foooooooreeeeeevvvveeeeeer away, and he laughed, and said, “Well it’s not like you’re going to get it right away anyway!”
Oh silly boy. I don’t have any doubts that we will get married, just not sure when we’ll get engaged.
Post # 11
I am certain he hasn’t bought a ring, but I suspect he is about to start saving for one. For the past few weeks I have been thinking that he seems so ready now, and I think I got the confirmation I needed last night;
I was watching a reality wedding show called Don’t Tell the Bride, in which the groom is given a budget of £12000 and has to plan the wedding in three wrrks with his best man, without any input from the bride. I asked SO jokingly if he was dreading wedding planning, and he said in all seriousness, “No. It’s a big undertaking, but I think we’ll be able to do it”. I asked him if he is worried about the money, and again in all seriousness he said “No, there is a wedding for every budget”. This is a huge step forward for us… only 6 months ago he said he was not looking forward to planning a wedding as it would be so stressful and time consuming, and he was also worried about the money.
So hopefully not too long until there is a ring on my finger now.
Post # 12
I am unofficially engaged. We are going to design my e-ring after Valentine’s Day so we can get more for the money. Jewelers always hike prices around the major holidays so we will be smart and get afterwards.
Post # 13
Other – we have the stone. Trying to find a ring.
Post # 14
I know the ring has been put on order and deposit paid for, that was a couple of months ago. Hoping I will see it again by new years – don’t think he has it on him yet, don’t think he could keep hold of it for long without the excitement!
Post # 15
I know he put a deposit on a ring..I’m pretty sure it’s paid off but I don’t know if he has it yet. I’m getting anxious..even though I haven’t been waiting long, I thought I’d be engaged this past summer. Staying positive!
Post # 16
Im somewhere between “We’ve spoken about it” and “signs point to yes” He isn’t doing anything about it as yet, but he has promised it wont be too long. So who knows!!