(Closed) Where in the world are my RSVP’s?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Isn’t it amazing how people just don’t bother to RSVP?  Looks like you’re going to have to get on the phone with the 13 who didn’t respond.  Ask family members to help, too.  No need to go into such detail, just something like, “Hey there, our RSVP deadline passed and I didn’t get your response, will you be able to attend?” 

Good luck!

Post # 4
2475 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I agree with lilybay about not going into that much detail

Post # 6
647 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think that’s waaaay too much information, but I also don’t think it’s rude to send a follow-up e-mail.  I think lilybay’s suggestion keeps it short and to the point!

Post # 7
1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

You need to get on the phone with your guests asap to find out if they are attending or not. Never assume anything. If you cannot reach anyone, count them as a no-show. If they show up anyway at the wedding and have nowhere to sit, it is not your fault.

Be aware that email is not the best way to contact people if you need a quick response as a number of people go a long time in between checking theirs.

Post # 8
57 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I didn’t read your email all the way through, but a think a phone call might be a better choice.  It’s more personal and since you’re having a small wedding and they are family I think it is important to make personal contact.

On a side note, I gave Fiance the reply postcard for my friends wedding for him to mail off at the beginning of last week. (he takes care of the mail, I honestly have nothing to do with it)  The deadline for the card is TODAY and I woke up to a FACEBOOK message from my friend, the bride.  It is not even a private message, it includes like 20 other people on it that says she really needs to know the RSVP’s for her wedding.  I think that was WAYYYYY tacky, and if you knew that the ABSOLUTE last day you needed know was TODAY then don’t make your RSVP deadline today… I love her to death and I am upset with Fiance for not sending it when he said he would but sometimes that blond hair just makes me want to scream.  Plus we’re really good friends, we talk about every other to every 3 days and I just felt kind of judged by getting a group facebook message about it.

Post # 9
234 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I agree that there’s no need to go into all the detail, and the phone is the best way to reach people in a hurry.  Even if they don’t pick up, most people I know are better about answering voicemails then emails.  Calling with a quick “hey, didn’t get your RSVP, are you going to be able to make it?” is perfectly fine!

Post # 10
2867 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I probably wouldn’t go into that much detail but something more than just “Hey where’s your RSVP?” I wouldn’t really mention the card at this point.

I’d say something like:

Hey there! I’m just checking in to see if you and (whoever is in their family) will be attending the wedding on June 19th. We’d love to see you! The venue needs a head count so everyone has a seat and enough to eat. 🙂

If you could please let me know ASAP, even if you are unable to make it. Thanks so much!

Post # 11
99 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I agree with camrie- keep it simple and friendly.

Post # 12
5498 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

You can send a follow up e-mail or call. but I would just say along the lines of,

“Hey I am following up on some last minuet RSVP’s. Will you be able to attend the wedding?”

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