Post # 1
I just told my co-worker that I’m going “home to see my parents this weekend” and I don’t even know why I said it.
I’m 24. I’ve been living on my own since I was 18. My SO and I moved in together when I was 20. Now, we’ve spent the last 4 years bopping from apartment to apartment until we’re ready to settle down and purchase a home, but why is my parents’ house still “home”? None of my stuff is there… Yea I have my room still, but there’s not much left in it except my bed and an empty dresser. My mom took over the closet for her clothes so nothing in there is mine anymore either.
And yet… it’s still home. Not that my apartment doesn’t feel like home. It’s decorated, it holds all my things and it has my SO. It’s where I cook, watch TV, do my laundry. sleep.. and well, live.
Will I always feel like I have 2 homes? Maybe it will change when we stopped dragging our stuff from apt to apt and finally settle down in a permanent location.
Does anyone else feel this way??
Post # 3
I feel the exact same way. There’s not much of mine in my bedroom at my parents’ anymore, but I still consider it “home” in a way. I think it will change when I have a permanent house – a real place that we’ll be settling down in!
Post # 4
I am almost 35 and “home” is still at my parent’s house. I have NEVER had a room in the house that my parents currently own. Have lived on my own since college and have a 13 year old daughter and a home of my own (have been a homeowner for 10 years) . “Home” is where my mommy and daddy are and that will never change for me. I think I call my parent’s house “home” b/c it’s permanent. No matter where I go or how many times I relocate…I can always go back to my parents home and just feel comfortable and safe and loved….that’s what home is.
Post # 5
I still feel like I have 2 homes. Though I’ve started to grow out of the habit since we bought our house, I’ll still consider my parents’ house “home” as well. It will be a sad day when they sell their house. They built it and it’s the only place I’ve ever known as home besides my own house now.
I think it will always hold that place in your heart…
Post # 6
I feel the same way! I live in a city that’s 14 hours from my parent’s city/hometown. I call both places home as in, “I’m going home to visit my family”, and then at the same time, “I’m excited to go back home after visiting family” lol. Sounds like it’s pretty common to feel this way!
Post # 7
I escaped this because my parents are chronic movers. I mean, for no reason other than that they wanted to, I lived in 7+ places growing up, and they moved again the year I went to college and got my own apartment. Since they moved to a retirement community and I never lived there full-time, there’s no temptation to call it home.
My fiance, however, calls both our apartment AND his childhood home “home.” That can get confusing!
Post # 8
When I am out somewhere and say I want to go home my first thought is going to the house that Fiance live in and own. But whenever I talk about going to my parents I always use the word home with it! I don’t know why but their house is never not going to be a place I consider home, because no matter what I’m always as confortable there as I am in my own home!
Post # 9
I’m with OttawaBride2011 – I love to go home to my family and I love to go home to my husband. Granted one is in the USA and one is in Ireland so they carry different connotations (like general references to the USA can be referenced as ‘at home we…blah blah blah) but home is definitely where my parents are and is also where I share my life with my beloved ;o)
Post # 10
I live in England but I’m not from England. When talking to people here I use ‘home’ to refer to England (as in ‘I’m going home after this meeting’) and ‘home’ to refer to where I’m originally from, though I haven’t lived there in 7 years (as in ‘I’m going home to see my parents when I get annual leave’). The interesting thing is that when I am ‘home’ with my parents, I never say I’m going ‘home’ to England in 2 days…
Post # 11
“Home” is related to wherever I am staying at that present time. But if I go to visit someone (say, my dad) I’ll always say “I’m going to Dad’s”. On the other hand on our honeymoon Darling Husband caught me calling the hotel “home” more times than I care to admit!
Post # 12
Home is where I live. If I go to see my parents I say “I’m going to see my parent’s”. I don’t say “i’m going home”.
My parents moved around a lot though. I never lived in the house they are in now, so it doesn’t feel like home. They made me take absolutely everything of mine out of their last house about 6 years ago (I had lived in that house my last two years of high school so I guess that was more like a home). So I’ve never felt like their current home is my home since none of my belongings are there and I’ve never lived there.
Post # 13
Several months ago I moved from Michigan to Switzerland. I am originally from Cyprus. Now, Michigan feels like home, because most of my friends are there. Cyprus of course feels like home, because my family is there. Switzerland does not feel like home yet. In fact, I often say I’m going to “our apartment” instead of “home” when I am out and returning to where my fiance and I live.
I will be really homesick on September 4th when the football season opens!
Post # 14
When I tell others I’m going to see my parents I say that, and not that I’m “going home” – but my parent’s phone numbers are listed under the name “home” in my cell phone. Home home and home mobile.
Post # 15
I just throw around the word “home” and Fiance has actually mentioned that to me haha. He thinks that we should both only call “home” the place that we live together and when we see our family it is not “home.” I think that its just a word. If I’m where I live and I’m going to see family, “i’m going home to see my family.” At the end of the weekend “i’m excited to get home and relax before the work week.” Even when I’m on vacation and we’re out for the day and then headed back to the hotel? “Can’t wait to get home and take a shower.”
Basically, wherever I plan to sleep TONIGHT is where I call home. 🙂
Post # 16
I think home will always be my parents house. I have it listed like that in my cell. I have our home number listed under “our house” on my cell (FH has it listed under “house” not “home”). Maybe we will change our mind sets once we move to the place where we will no longer move again/raise our family in because I think we are still in shock that we have both moved out of state (his job put him in another state that we weren’t expecting). I guess that is why we don’t see this house as home because it is not permanent for us because we want to move closer to “home” asap.
Then again, I have only been in this house for a week so I may start calling it home one day.