Post # 1
I know it’s in poor taste to list your registeries on a save the date or an invitation, but what is the consensus on a wedding website? My mom and a few bridal magazines I’ve read all say that listing them anywhere is tacky and that you should just tell your close family and wedding party and rely on them to spread the word, but a few other sources have said that the website is the one acceptable place to list them since your guests can just go to your website, find your registeries, and buy you something online without the hassle of having to call and ask someone. Personally, I’ve had several friends get married that listed their registeries on their website and I thought it was really convenient and was not offended at all, but I just wanted to know what the general feeling was on website registery pages.
Thanks in advance!
Post # 3
I may be in the minority here, but I also believe that if someone is throwing you a shower, it is okay for THEM to mention the registry in the invitation.
Post # 4
I think it may depend on the family and how traditional they are. Personally, I have mine listed on my website because it is much easier for everyone to just go on there and check. I also agree with @heathaah, if someone else is throwing a shower then it is okay for them to list registries if they feel like it (as long as they are sending out invitations)
Post # 5
It also depends on your culture. Every single invitation I’ve ever received had a registry included. And those that didn’t had it in the bridal shower and honey do ivites. So somehow, the presents got listed at some point.
Post # 6
I agree with two PP’s
1. if someone is throwing you a shower.
2. on the wedding website.
Personally, I wouldn’t want to call around and ask for that information. I’m not a phone person so I wouldn’t want to get dragged into idle chat. And what if you have guests that don’t know your family too well (ex: friends from college). I woulnd’t be comfortable calling up someone I don’t know to ask about gift registries.
Post # 7
@Lee_Ann: Totally agree on everything you just said.
Post # 8
Thanks for all the feedback! I’m leaning a lot more towards posting them on our website now. I think a few more traditionally minded people might think it’s tacky, but for the most part we’re inviting our friends and family and I don’t think they’ll mind. I’ll just put a little disclaimer at the top reading along the lines of “The Bride and Groom could ask for no better gift than your presence at their wedding, but if you feel compelled to bring a little something extra . . .” I’ll just need to find a better way to word it that doesn’t sound so *wink* *wink* *nudge* *nudge*. :p
Post # 9
well I did one of those “easy to make” website throught theknot and they have a space for registries…and it links all of them so the guest can just clink right on it. When viewing other people’s sites I didn’t find it offensive or tacky so I’m hoping poeple don’t find that tacky for ours!
And when we registered we got those cards that go in the shower invites. We are not including them in the wedding invite though of course…
Post # 10
When I am invited I rather be told what you would like for me to buy you. Its makes everything so much easier in the long run. If I dont see a registry youre getting cash in a card. I dont understand how this has become poor taste. Everyone knows your buying a gift for the person… Put in on the web page…hell tell me in the invite! I will love you for it! Who really is offended or thinks “wow such bad taste” when they are told a person has a registry? I want to meet this kind of person and slap them for making me insane.
Post # 11
@Miss. Meeps: I think to some people it implies that you expect a gift from all your guests, when it’s not actually required for guests to bring gifts. I think it’s a little silly too, but some people are really touchy about these things.
Post # 12
We listed our info on our wedding website, and my family has been passing that along for people who lost the save-the-date. Also, my Future Mother-In-Law and Future Sister-In-Law are throwing me a bridal shower, and they also listed our wedding website on their invitation, but didn’t specifically mention the registries themselves. I personally think it needs to be published somewhere, because friends from college and whatnot aren’t going to go around making phone calls to your family (or mine wouldn’t).