(Closed) Where is my dress? – Please calm me down…

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
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Busy bee

I am so sorry for this happening to you and I will pray that everything turns out all right! Keep us updated!

Post # 3
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Helper bee

Have you tried like a reverse phone look up or a paid service to try and track down her address?

You can use a website like spokeo.com but you’ll have to pay like $3 to view a report with name/address/age/family members on it, etc.

I would keep calling and if this goes on any longer than another day or two you might need to call the police and report the dress stolen to see if they can recover it from the woman. That’s insane but you’re leaving in 10 days. You don’t have time to get another dress.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

Breathe…… First, you need to stop with all the calls and messages. I’m sure by this point she knows you want your dress. I’m thinking she hasn’t got around to your dress or it’s not complete and that’s why she’s not returning your messages & calls. Which by no means makes it right for her to ignore you when it’s so close to the wedding. Maybe all the calls and messages you already made will get her ass into gear on whatever it is she needs to do to finish the dress. Give her a couple days to get back to you. Praying everything works out.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Call her from a different # so she doesnt know its you? 

I would be freaking out too, that is so frustrating and rude of her to make you worry like this! Evem if the dress isn’t ready she should at least respond to tell you that!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

How did you find her? Is she part of any sort of organization you could call to back you up? 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

You need to file a police report. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Also–if I were you I would order a ready to wear dress from BHLDN or J Crew or David’s Bridal (any site that has dresses pre-made) today. If your original dress comes through, which hopefully it will, you can return it. I’m really sorry that you’re going through this. I agree with the PPs who think you should call the police. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would second calling from another number

 

also do you have any address or info on her? I would be going to her house/shop and knocking on the door

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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DesBride:  I would absolutely NOT give her a few days. She is purposely avoiding her and OP has a right to know why. Her wedding is 10 days away! She has no time towait. If something happened to her dress, she needs to know now so that she can come up with a contigency plan! Try BHLDN where you can usually get a dress within 5 days. At least so you have a backup!

 

OP, I am so sorry you’re dealing with this. I would absolutely do a reverse look-up to find her address.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Oh my gosh 🙁

If this were me, I’d go to the police and report it stolen. You’ve given her enough chances for her to answer and let her explain if it wasn’t done yet.

The least she could have done is just answer the phone and be honest, at least then you’d know and not have to feel the way you feel now. I wouldn’t waste anymore time. Let the police help you. It doesn’t have to feel like an attack on her, but dang..this is your wedding dress. You need answers and help from the people who can help you.

 

 

good luck!!

 

 

ps: in the meantime, like the other bees mentioned, order yourself a back up dress from bhldn or even somewhere like Nordstrom. Just in case. This is what I would do.

  • This reply was modified 6 years, 2 months ago by anndck.
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Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

I’m so sorry this is happening. .How stressful! Hopefully she contacts you very soon. 

I second what others have said.  I would try contacting her from another number. Or have a friend/family member try contacting her. Can you find any reviews of her online? 

 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

Send her one final message telling her that if you don’t hear from her by 5:00pm tomorrow, you will be filing a police report and will just have to sort it out in court.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Maybe post something publicly on her business facebook page? 

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

Please don’t think that someone of a specific religion is inherently trustworthy enough that you don’t need any info on them. That is how scam artists take advantage of nice people. 

However, since she already did the work of two fittings I doubt she’s trying to scam you. She is probably not done with your dress and is hiding from you. It is maddening that people think it’s better to let you wonder than to just tell you the truth. 

I hope you hear from her today! Order a backup just in case.

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