Post # 1
SO and I discussed our expectations and timeline for the proposal. Our 3rd anniversary and birthday have flown by quickly. I was fine. We moved in together 2 months ago, and all of a sudden, about 2 weeks ago, I was gripped with disappointment that he has yet to propose. That I had just made a big step was finally sinking in.
I have always known that SO is going to propose and has every intention to do so. I just did not know when the time will come. SO told me to trust him, I won’t have to wait too long, he has already told his close friends and colleagues that he plans to propose within the next 6 months.
The big question (besides those 4 important words ) now is when will he pop the question? I am certain that he does not have the ring. He asked me to give him specific details of what I like and send him pictures. I plan to head to the shop next week to try on a couple of rings, then send him the pictures.
If your SO has given you a timeline, how long did you have to wait? Did he still manage to surprise you?
Post # 2
- Wedding: February 2017 - Californos
My SO did not “give” me a timeline, but rather we both discussed our preferred timelines and compromised on one that worked for us both. Most guys don’t have the money sitting around for an engagement ring, and without a specific timeline in mind it is probably unlikely that a guy will start stashing away lots for it. If you are concerned about disappointment at every holiday, milestone, birthday, etc, you need to have a frank conversation with him. I understand that the surprise element is important to some people, but narrowing that surprise time frame down is still important. After awhile the idea of a surprise completely lost its appeal to both my boyfriend and myself. We bought the ring together and know exactly when it will come in, and when we will get engaged. Similar to Christmas or my birthday, knowing when it is doesn’t ruin the anticipation or fun 😃
Post # 3
I like that you both made a compromise. It shows a level of maturity and respect for the other person.
I have made a firm decision not to discuss when he will propose i.e. not my feelings regarding when he does or does not propose. I trust that he will. I know he wants to surprise me, I want to be surprised, so I don’t want to ruin it. Hence I am here to spew lol.
Post # 4
We didn’t a have timeline but more of a checklist of things we wanted to accomplish before getting engaged. We started dating at 18 so there were quite a few things we wanted to do before getting married. The last thing on that list was for him to get a full time position in his field. The month he got the job, we went ring shopping and he bought the ring the next week then proposed 6 months later 🙂
Even though we had been together 7 years and I knew he had the ring, he still surprised me with the proposal as I wasn’t expecting it at all the night he asked.
Post # 5
I guess I don’t understand your question. It sounds like you’ve already disucssed it and know the timeline. He said was going to propose within six months right? If this doesn’t work for you, then you need to talk to him. But if it does, then just have patience and enjoy dating for the next six months. One way to help with the “will it happen on X special occasion coming up??!!” Is to just assume that he will propose on a random day and not a particularly special one.
With my Fiance and I, once we realized that our relationship was potentially heading towards marriage, we disucssed generally when we’d want to get married and generally how long of an engagement we wanted (we both wanted a short engagement for this was important to be on the same page about). This gave me a range of several months. Him and I had several follow up conversations to make sure we were still both on the same page and still both saw our relationship heading toward marriage. By the time he actually asked me, we were both very much on the same page about everything.
ETA: and he purposed on a completely random day, not any special occasion. Haha, it was the day after he picked up the ring because he couldn’t wait any longer.
Post # 6
So sweet that your Fiance could not hold his excitment in!
I’ve wanted to be engaged at 30, so 6 months will work for me.
I guess I don’t really have a particular question per se, and at this moment in time only the crystal ball can help me. I have no clue when he will propose, so I shall kick back and enjoy while SO hatches a proposal plan and goes ring shopping.
Post # 7
Great! Your Fiance is a trustworthy man who honors his commitment to you. Could you share why he waited 6 months to pop the question?
Post # 8
My Fiance asked me for inspiration pictures around mid June and he proposed to me at the end of August. So I waited a very anxious and excited 2 months hehe! Hope it is soon Bee! 😘😘
Post # 9
OH! and he picked a completely random day…I had no idea! My birthday, our anniversary etc were no shows and then bam…on a bank holiday monday hehe!
Post # 10
My BF and I compared timelines and he’ll be proposing between April and September of next year, and it’s so hard to wait! It’ll still be a surprise, because it could be anytime within 6 months or so, and he’s super creative so I’m sure he’ll do something I don’t expect.
Post # 11
I feel you OP. I was 100% convinced my OH would propose at our last anniversary (4 years) but no…nothing at all. I was absolutely gutted but kept it to myself as I didn’t want to come across as being controlling. About 6 months ago I did make it clear that although I know we are together for life, that I’m sick of everyone else’s lives moving on past ours. that we are stuck in this pre-engaged state. He just said it’ll happen when it happens and not to worry. I dropped a hint as to what I wanted my ring to look like (as I am not a jewellery person, and I don’t like bling). I over heard him on the phone to a jewellers in July asking about getting the ring made. I nearly died with excitement. Almost 3 months later I heard him on the phone recently following up on the making of the ring and they said it was being shipped this week. So I know…but I don’t know. Reading about all the ladies here who’s FI’s held onto rings for over a year makes me want to crack up…on the other hand, I don’t know how soon or otherwise a proposal will happen.
OP you are not alone here!