(Closed) Where is my ring?

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2017 - Californos

My SO did not “give” me a timeline, but rather we both discussed our preferred timelines and compromised on one that worked for us both. Most guys don’t have the money sitting around for an engagement ring, and without a specific timeline in mind it is probably unlikely that a guy will start stashing away lots for it. If you are concerned about disappointment at every holiday, milestone, birthday, etc, you need to have a frank conversation with him. I understand that the surprise element is important to some people, but narrowing that surprise time frame down is still important. After awhile the idea of a surprise completely lost its appeal to both my boyfriend and myself. We bought the ring together and know exactly when it will come in, and when we will get engaged. Similar to Christmas or my birthday, knowing when it is doesn’t ruin the anticipation or fun ๐Ÿ˜ƒ

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

We didn’t a have timeline but more of a checklist of things we wanted to accomplish before getting engaged. We started dating at 18 so there were quite a few things we wanted to do before getting married. The last thing on that list was for him to get a full time position in his field. The month he got the job, we went ring shopping and he bought the ring the next week then proposed 6 months later ๐Ÿ™‚

Even though we had been together 7 years and I knew he had the ring, he still surprised me with the proposal as I wasn’t expecting it at all the night he asked.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I guess I don’t understand your question. It sounds like you’ve already disucssed it and know the timeline.  He said was going to propose within six months right? If this doesn’t work for you, then you need to talk to him. But if it does, then just have patience and enjoy dating for the next six months. One way to help with the “will it happen on X special occasion coming up??!!” Is to just assume that he will propose on a random day and not a particularly special one. 

With my Fiance and I, once we realized that our relationship was potentially heading towards marriage, we disucssed generally when we’d want to get married and generally how long of an engagement we wanted (we both wanted a short engagement for this was important to be on the same page about). This gave me a range of several months. Him and I had several follow up conversations to make sure we were still both on the same page and still both saw our relationship heading toward marriage. By the time he actually asked me, we were both very much on the same page about everything. 

ETA: and he purposed on a completely random day, not any special occasion. Haha, it was the day after he picked up the ring because he couldn’t wait any longer. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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missbellini2016 :  My Fiance asked me for inspiration pictures around mid June and he proposed to me at the end of August. So I waited a very anxious and excited 2 months hehe! Hope it is soon Bee! ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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missbellini2016 :  OH! and he picked a completely random day…I had no idea! My birthday, our anniversary etc were no shows and then bam…on a bank holiday monday hehe!

Post # 10
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Busy bee

My BF and I compared timelines and he’ll be proposing between April and September of next year, and it’s so hard to wait! It’ll still be a surprise, because it could be anytime within 6 months or so, and he’s super creative so I’m sure he’ll do something I don’t expect. 

 

Post # 11
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Blushing bee

I feel you OP. I was 100% convinced my OH would propose at our last anniversary (4 years) but no…nothing at all. I was absolutely gutted but kept it to myself as I didn’t want to come across as being controlling. About 6 months ago I did make it clear that although I know we are together for life, that I’m sick of everyone else’s lives moving on past ours. that we are stuck in this pre-engaged state. He just said it’ll happen when it happens and not to worry.  I dropped a hint as to what I wanted my ring to look like (as I am not a jewellery person, and I don’t like bling). I over heard him on the phone to a jewellers in July asking about getting the ring made. I nearly died with excitement. Almost 3 months later I heard him on the phone recently following up on the making of the ring and they said it was being shipped this week. So I know…but I don’t know. Reading about all the ladies here who’s FI’s held onto rings for over a year makes me want to crack up…on the other hand, I don’t know how soon or otherwise a proposal will happen. 

 

OP you are not alone here! 

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