(Closed) Where is the line between controlling and genuinely upset? Warning LONG

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I would tell him it takes two to tango, you made the trip last weekend, and he can come this weekend. If he can’t deal with that, then its his loss and don’t let him guilt trip you!

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Seriously you’re not supposed to have a life outside of traveling to see him? pfff  GO ZOMBIE IT UP girl… especially since you have a kickin costume.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Comic-con’s only once a year.  You visited him more recently than he visited you.  He needs to chill out.  

Post # 7
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Busy bee

@perri:  I agree, the con is once a year. Go for it! 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

NOPE not harsh at all.  He should be excited that you have some plans.  Darling Husband and I were LDR for awhile and neither of us ever made the other feel bad about doing things with friends!!! It’s part of the LDR

Post # 10
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Helper bee

He’s just pouting because he wanted to see you. Don’t let him make you feel bad. Zombie it up and post pictures!

Post # 11
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859 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

He should be more reasonable and understanding

 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@perri:  Heck ya go to comic-con. Being in a relationship doesn’t mean you have to set your life around him. Go have fun with your friends this weekend, if he wants to see you that badly he can come to you.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

It’s sounds like he’s having a temper tantrum like a 2 year old. I hope you don’t get more of the same after your text because it was very calm, fair and logical.

Does he do this often? If so I would be a little more concerned. My exH was like this. My children and I ended up being his ‘playthings’. We would be expected to do things/go places with him but he would take off by himself whenever he wanted and God forbid that we would have any plans then. We were supposed to sit at home waiting for him! Uh…NO!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

The only thing you can do is try to talk to him normally, but still hold your ground. He needs to grow up and realize you have a life, too!

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