(Closed) Where is your wedding and how much are you paying per person?

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Post # 32
1810 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Our wedding will be in Newport Beach, Ca (on a yacht cruising the harbor, can’t wait). It will be about $80 per person including tax plus a one time $450 service charge. Gratuity is not included or required, and we will not be adding the gratuity as a percentage of the package total. Instead we will tip the servers/ ‘helpers’ individually what we feel is appropriate. Since it’s a package, the price includes: ceremony & set up, reception set up, clean up and all rentals, brunch, all non alcoholic beverages, endless champagne and the cake.

Post # 33
3316 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We had our ceremony near Boston.  Immediately afterward, we had a luncheon at Legal Sea Foods.  For food, wine, add-on for using the private dining room, tax, and tip, it was about $100 per person.  There was no separate fee for the venue, beyond the food and drink that we ordered.

Back in DC, we hired a friend to buy food from BJ’s, prepare it, serve it, and clean up.  For heavy hors d’oeuvres (but enough of them so people could make a meal from them), it was a total of  a little under $800 for sixty people.  The open bar was another $250.  Thus, the food and drink costs were $17.50 per person.  However, unlike in MA, this did not include the venue rental or other expenses.

Post # 34
168 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Southbury, Connecticut.  For:

Open Bar

Cocktail hour w/ passed appetizers

Sit Down Sinner

Champagne Toast

Wine Table Service

Wedding Cake

Rooms for ceremony, cocktail hour, and 5 hour reception


We’re paying $90 (21+), $70 (age 12-20) and $40 (12 and under).  The tiered costs really saved us since all of my cousins are kids and we have quite a few of them coming.  We have about 100 people, including all the kids.

Post # 35
120 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

we live in chicago, but are getting married in indiana because that’s where we’re originally from (oh, who am i kidding?  it’s because life is waaaaay cheaper there).

5.5 hours open bar (with “premuin plus” bar)

cocktail hour with 4 hot hors d’oeuvres

family style dinner (salad, soup, bread, 3 mains, potato, vegetable)

dessert (ice cream, not the wedding cake)

wine for all guest tables, centerpieces, chair covers, cake cutting, tax and gratuity all included too

$49.95/per person, $40 for kids 3-12, $0 for under 3.  damn, i love indiana.

Post # 36
1398 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We’re getting married in Northern NJ, and so it’s pretty steep.

$115 per person including premium open bar for 5 hours, tax and grat not included.

8 passed hors d’oeuvres, pasta and mussel station for cocktail hour.

Seated dinner with 3 choices, chicken, filet mignon or grouper, with one starch side and veggies.  Appetizer of mozzarella sticks or salad (haven’t decided)

Cupcake tower with top cake, plus cookies for every table (will be made into a separate cookie table)

Includes basic cotton linens in pretty much any color and valet parking. 1/2 price for vendors and kids.  We’re pretty happy with what we’re getting!

Post # 37
2249 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2020

My wedding was in Oregon, and the food (3 course meal plus cake), was ~25 per person. we supplied our own alcohol and we spent about $1000 on beer and wine, but we only drank about 1/2 (leftovers = our wedding gift to ourselves 🙂 )our reception venue was $1200 and we also spent about $1500 on rentals (65 people) I figured the rentals food cake and decor on the tables worked out to be around $75 per person, but we had chivaris because I have no willpower to say no! Our food was on the less expensive side for catering in the Portland area and it was Organic and DELISH. We didn’t have to pay extra for the vegan or gluten free meals, and everyone else was served family style.

Post # 38
112 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We are not having plated meals. I am in eastern Kentucky so things are a bit cheaper. We are looking at about $12 per person and include:

Chicken salad sandwiches

Ham sandwiches

Chicken wings

Veggies and Dip

A Cheese selection

Fuit and Dip


Cupcakes or a brownie cake

Coffee, Iced Tea, punch, water and cola

(We are not doing alcohol- it isn’t a big thing around here and I don’t want it at my wedding).

We are also not having traditional centerpieces. We are having big bowls of chocolate on each table. YUMMY!

These are our favorite foods and we are tickled with it!

Post # 39
1254 posts
Bumble bee

Southern California with a backyard fiesta-themed wedding: $37/person for meals which consist of a Taco, Paella and dessert bar but not including alcohol. If alcohol was included, it would be closer to $75-$100 per person. Booze will be flowing and majority of our guest list are heavy drinkers.

Post # 40
3563 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We’re getting married in NYC (at the Central Park Boathouse–for any nyc brides interested in more  info, PM me!) We’re paying a base rate of $165 per person. That does not include tax or gratuity. For that, we get an hour long cocktail hour, open bar, 4 course meal, including a dessert (but not a cake), and 6 passed apps. And of course, we get the ambiance of getting married in the middle of Central Park 🙂

Post # 41
2090 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’m getting married on an island in southern Maine, and breaks down as:

$105/pp – food (tons of appetizers, 4 plated courses and dessert, and including all taxes and service charges)

$2300 for alcohol (red/white wine, champagne and beer, and non-alcoholic beverages)

This doesn’t include the venue fee, which is $2500 (ouch).

Post # 42
256 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I am getting married in Andover MA.  My package includes 5 passed h’odeuvres; Brie & raspberry phyllo squares, vegetable quesadilla, scallops wrapped in bacon, mini beef wellingotn, and chicken sate. We also get two station appetizers a cheese and fruit station and a bruschetta station. Salad; mixed greesn, grilled pears, glazed pecans and gorganzola cheese. Firenze Chicken- chicken stuffed with carmalized onions, fontina cheese, breadcrumps, spinach and proscuitto- $54 or filet mignon $75, there is also a vegetarian option. Those prices also includes champagne toast, creme brulee, and tea and coffee service. Which I thought was ALOT for the money. This does not include tip, tax or other drinks.

Post # 43
153 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Mine is in Jersey City at a hotel. It’s a 5 course upscale meal for $170/plate. This includes the cake, venue, and staffing. With a 22% gratiuty and tax, it comes out closer to $200/plate.

Post # 44
2203 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My reception is in downtown Boston- about $175+ per person- cocktail hour w/ passed hor’s, full plated dinner, full open bar all night. It’s alot but high quality food was a priority for us so I think it’s worth it!

Post # 45
212 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’m getting married in New Orleans where buffets are the norm. Per person is $81 and includes

4 hours “preminum” open bar

4 passed hors d’oeuvres

1 soup (gumbo) station

1 salad station

1 carving station

1 seafood pasta station

crudite, fruit & cheese display with crackers, breads

spinach and artichoke dip station

It doesn’t include a service charge or any kind of dessert. I’m paying $3 a person to use china vs “high end” plastic.

Post # 46
330 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

We got married in Portland, Oregon, and our all-inclusive per peson cost was $34 pp. This included a full buffet dinner, live musicians for the ceremony and reception, all decor, etc, as well as the rehearsal. We did not serve alcohol.

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