Post # 1
Need a small quick advice from y’all. So I live quite far from where my family lives, and my Mom is coming here tonight with her boyfriend. Not really to visit me (since I already go to their city in a month) but because they wanna rent a car tomorrow morning and drive around the area for a few days (without me, which is totally fine, I have to work anyways). So she’s coming with her boyfriend, but I only have one double bed and one couch. They know that, but we haven’t discussed yet where they sleep. I don’t know what to do. Obviously I want my Mom to sleep in the bed, but should I let her boyfriend sleep in my bed too and I sleep on the couch? My couch isn’t super comfy, and even though I don’t have to work tomorrow I’m kinda dreading to sleep on it. I’m a very light sleeper and I’m not one of those people who can fall asleep everywhere. If I decide to give them the bed and I sleep on the couch, I probably wouldn’t get much sleep tonight. On the other hand, I’d feel bad to tell them that I’ll sleep in my bed with my Mom and her boyfriend (he’s 59) has to sleep on the couch. I guess it’s not so important but in case you wonder, I like my Mom’s boyfriend and have been knowing him for about a year.
What would you do? Any advice? Thanks
Post # 2
Can you get a blow up mattress?
Post # 3
italianbride0508 : No 🙁 I asked friends for one but nobody has one. And I don’t wanna buy one only for tonight.
Post # 4
Yup I was going to say get a nice blow up bed. We got a really nice automatically inflating one and it was about £40. I thought it would be rubbish but it’s really deep and very comfy. Make it up like a ‘proper’ bed with spare pillows and duvet etc and you’re all set.
Edited having seen your update – well suggest your mum picks one up on her way to you or borrows one and brings it with her. They are handy to have for extra friends to sleep over etc.
Post # 5
veleniza : I would still buy one, tbh. You could get s nice one and some sheets for $150 or less. It would be good to have, and I really don’t see another viable option.
No you can’t have the boyfriend (a guest) sleep on the floor, and you don’t seem to want to sleep on the couch, which means no one else should be sleeping on the couch.
an air matress can be used for hosting guests, camping, etc for years and years. It’s a worthy investment to give your guests somewhere suitable to sleep.
Post # 6
I don’t like sleeping on couches either but it’s one night. I think it’s a nice gesture of goodwill to your Mom and her boyfriend to offer them the double bed. If you’ve agreed to host them, you should arrange for them to sleep comfortably.
Post # 7
If you are dreading sleeping there, then your guest should not be asked to sleep there.
Post # 8
Is this a real question?! She gave you LIFE. Give them the bed…
Post # 9
“She gave you life”- Sorry but this is stupid. Also, I said from the beginning that I would definitely let my mom sleep in my bed, it’s about her boyfriend who I haven’t known for very long. In the past, when I stayed at their apt, I always slept on the couch and they slept in their bed. Normal I think.
Anyways, I went to the stores to see if I can get an air mattress but I only found really expensive ones. So I guess in the end I’ll just stay on the couch and hope I can get some good hours of sleep anyways!
Post # 10
I would be very weirded out by my mom’s boyfriend sleeping in my bed. And it’s pretty rude to expect someone to give up their own bed when they have to work in the morning too. I’d tell her to pick up her own air mattress…
kaitiebee : yeah no. giving birth doesn’t give you the right to just do whatever the hell you want to your kid. And I say this as a mother.
Post # 11
veleniza : I think it would be really rude to make him sleep on the sofa, give him and your mum the bed. Stop being dramatic about it, it’s one night and you aren’t up for work the next morning.
Post # 12
I’d just let him sleep on the couch. They arent there to visit you, and are the one crashing for a night KNOWING there’s no space. If they are so concerned about a bed for the night, they can get a hotel room. Now if they were actually visiting for a few days to see me as “real” guest, then that’d be totally different and I would absolutely buy a airmattress or give them the bed.
Post # 13
veleniza : I know you said you don’t want to buy a blow up mattress just for tonight, but do you foresee them visiting you at all in the future? If so, it might be nice to have a blow up mattress so this issue doesn’t come up again.
When people visit me, I don’t give up my bed. But when I visit them, I don’t expect them to give their bed up for me either.
Post # 15
whnlz : Dramatic? You’re being dramatic right now saying that I’m dramatic. I never made drama about it, I was just interested in hearing what the bees think. Dear lord.