Where should I have my Mom and her boyfriend sleep?

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018 - Tizer Gardens/Carroll College

In separate beds, just like they made me do with my Boyfriend or Best Friend when we were not engaged, even as a grown ass woman! (she said with a giggle)

 

Post # 19
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

Yes, it is normal for them to sllep in a bed together because they are a couple.  They are your guests, either buy a matress or sleep on the couch.

Post # 20
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2014

When we didn’t have a guest bed, we let my parents sleep in our bed and we slept on a blow up mattress. If it’s same age friends, then they got the blow up mattress or the couch, but for older people, I think it’s nice for them to have a real bed so they don’t wake up in pain. If you can’t get a blow up mattress, I would just sleep on the couch for the one night or make a bed on the floor by piling up some blankets. 

Post # 21
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2469 posts
Buzzing bee

And maybe find a good air mattress to have on hand for the future?  They make some pretty good ones these days.

Post # 22
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

veleniza :  amaon a blow up bed – it’s like $20, and you could get overnight shipping for another $20 if you need it asap….by the sound of it, you could probably use having a decent guest bed around anyway (they’re *very* useful), so i would consider it a worthwhile investment

Post # 23
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5057 posts
Bee Keeper

Is it a sleeper couch? 

Post # 24
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12317 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

Hotel, an air mattress, or the Boyfriend or Best Friend sleeps on the couch. You should not be kicked out of your own bed, and if you are uncomfortable with him sleeping in  your bed, that’s good enough reason for him not to.

Just talk to your mother.

Post # 25
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594 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 1993

I think your moms s boyfriend should get a hotel room. Mom knows the situation. I would never expect my kid to give up their bed. At their age I would think the could afford it. 

Post # 26
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579 posts
Busy bee

veleniza :  a blow up mattress if you can or call your Mom and ask. 

Post # 27
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

If Mum ever gave you a rough time about having a boyfriend sleep with you in her house, or forbade it, then I would forbid it in your house. Ask her where her boyfriend is going to sleep. If she says with her, say I think not, you aren’t married.

Paybacks are a bitch, Mum.

Post # 28
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

When I lived in a condo and didn’t have a guest room I would offer to sleep on the sofa when my parents came to visit. I did it out of respect but also practicality- unless you have a sleeper sofa or an enormous sectional, two people generally can’t sleep on it. 

You could share the bed with your mom & put her boyfriend on the sofa. I personally sleep horribly if I am sharing a bed with anyone other than my fiancé. (It took time to adapt to sleeping with him.) The sofa may not be super comfortable, but I would sleep better there than next to my mom or anyone else I’m not used to sharing a bed with- tossing and turning, breathing loudly, snoring, etc. 

If the issue is more so that you are grossed out by someone else sleeping in your bed, I’d suggest investing in some guest bedding and a mattress cover. Mattress covers are great to have any way. 

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