Post # 1
We live in a large-ish, comfortable home, that despite all the square footage only has 2 guest rooms. In fairness, both the guest rooms are almost equivalent in size to the master and they both have ensuite bathrooms. One guest room is made up with two twin beds and the other has one queen bed. We found that in our last home, we never used the study and therefore did not set one up in our current house. The room off the kitchen that was apparently meant for that purpose, we’ve made into a bar room. The bar has a closing door (made partially of glass), no windows, and is right next to it is a half bath. We do not have any free-standing full baths.
Just before we moved, we issued a standing, general invitation to a large group of friends. As it turns out, a lot of them are planning to visit us at the same time during a long holiday weekend. We are thrilled to have them (and pride ourselves on being excellent hosts), but I am trying to work out the accomodations logistics. Thus far, confirmed, are 2 couples and two single women. It was easy to put my two single girlfriends in the twin guest room. I put one of the couples in the queen guest room. Now…I’m not sure what to do with the other couple. The bar has a futon/foldout which is very comfortable. And we also have an air mattress. I can’t see putting people to sleep in the bar because it’s very much NOT a living space. I believe it will feel just like sleeping in a kitchen.
I can set up an air mattress with full linens in the living room (that will have to be deflated and moved out of the way every morning), but the problems I foresee with that are: (1) it’s only 18 inches high, I wonder if I would need some sort of platform so that guests are not “lowering” themselves onto it and (2) there is no privacy in the living room as my downstairs is “open plan,” so they would not have the luxury of sleeping in, sleeping nude, etc (3) where will they store their luggage and personal things? Plus there’s the question of (4) regardless of where I put this couple, where will they shower?
These are our friends, we’ve known them for years and they are not persnickety people. They all know that they are all coming, so I think there is some basic awareness that nobody has four guest rooms lying around. However, they are all well-established, fairly well-off friends, and a “sleepover” vibe is definitely not what we’d be going for. We are not prepared to give up our bedroom, but perhaps there’s a way we can share it that I’m not thinking of? I’m grateful for any suggestions or thoughts. If you were coming to visit, what would you prefer?
Post # 2
If it helps, this is what the bar room looks like:
Post # 3
Hmm.. Beautiful bar room. But the bar room doesn’t really give relaxing, sleeping vibes, does it?
Is there a chance that you can put the twin beds together and give it to the couple, and try to accomodate the ladies somewhere else? Personally, I think it is more important for the couple to have some privacy than the ladies, because let’s face it, it’s Christmas time and they are going to want to do the deed.
Do you have a well-insulated basement where you can accomodate for ladies, and where they can have some reasonable standards of privacy? And as for where they can shower, I thought whoever misses out on the room with the twin beds can use your shower.
Post # 4
I’d be fine with crashing in a bar room. I’d much rather a room with a door vs the living room. Plus, if people get up early, they can still use the living room, and would be less ‘disturbing’ to the rest of the household.
Post # 5
I’d put whoever confirmed the trip first in the twin and double room, regardless of it being the couple or the single friends. I would never kick a single friend off a bed just so a couple had privacy to have sex.
The bar doesn’t look as cosy as a living room but it does have a little privacy. Why don’t you just put it to the couple when they arrive and they can pick between the two spaces on the day?
Post # 6
I say bar room as well. Air mattresses aren’t that comfortable, and having a room with a door is really nice. And they could probably use your shower, especially since there’s a half bath they can use at other times.
Post # 7
greywacke : “let’s face it, it’s Christmas time and they are going to want to do the deed.”
Riiight? lol. I considered pushing the twin beds together, but I don’t have any king bedding. I already have lots of queen and was able to cheaply get some high quality twin. Not sure I’m willing to invest in a king-size linen set, duvet, etc for this one occasion.
Besides the bar room not being relaxing, etc. Its door is basically see-through anyway. It’s only very slightly more private than the living room.
I’m not sure what I’d prefer, because I don’t regularly make myself a house guest for this very reason. A couple months back before our house was ready, we were staying in a one-bedroom apartment and a couple came to visit us. We put them on an air mattress in the living room, shared the one bathroom and it was perfectly fine. But in that case I was less concerned about the impression we were making because it was obviously the best we could do given the limited space. What’s weird is having this big house with so few sleeping options. To your point, I wouldn’t want whichever couples ends up without their own room to feel like second-class guests.
Post # 8
Overjoyed : I’d 100% want a door, so I vote for the bar room.
ETA – can you hang a curtain over the glass bit in the bar room to give it more privacy?
Post # 9
I vote for the bar room as well. I am a very light sleeper and I hear everything, so with the door that might help a bit. Also I don’t think I would be comfortable sleeping in an open living room where people will gather when they get up and be waiting for me to get out of the way. I would much prefer some private space, whether it has a see-through door or not.
Post # 10
I’d put the twin beds together, find some cheap sheets that fit, and put the single ladies in the bar room- maybe with a curtain over the door since you said it’s glass… I think it’s a little more important for couples to have privacy than single guests, but that’s they way it’s been done in my family… If you need to put the couple in the bar room bc you can’t find any sheets/linens i don’t think that would be a biggie either, it’s fairly private so long as the glass door is covered…
Post # 11
catandcloudlover : “can you hang a curtain over the glass bit in the bar room to give it more privacy?”
I sure can! Capital idea. Thanks!
catmom17 : We could definitely share our shower. Back when we lived in a place with just one bathroom we shared with our guests (as we had no choice) and there were no issues at all.
zzar45 : “I would never kick a single friend off a bed just so a couple had privacy to have sex.” Very true. I remember once, when I was single, I went to a dinner party where the couples were invited to sit at the table whilst everyone else had to balance a plate on their laps on the couch because obviously the married people needed to sit next to each other. I was pretty irritated about that, and would never discriminate that way.
greywacke : Unfortunately we do not have a basement. I super miss basements. Back when I lived in the US, mine was basically set up like a second living room so it was a catch-all sleeping area + entertaining area.
Post # 12
Bar room sounds fine, especially if there’s a convenient fold out bed in there already, and has a door. The bigger issue is the lack of a full bathroom that’s not en suite to some other bedroom. Just make sure to communicate the situation clearly and tell the bar room guests which bathroom to use (perhaps offer use of your own bathroom so they don’t have to pester other guests to get to the shower).
Post # 13
Do you have kids (e.g. additional bedrooms) that perhaps the kids can camp out elsewhere & let the adults bunk in their room/s? If not, the bar (for privacy) also gets my vote. And to agree with a couple PPs, I would NOT put the ‘couple’ in the room with the twin beds for the sole reason of them being a couple to “do the deed”. It’s a couple days; I’m sure they can refrain while they are there. Let the two singles have that room, and whichever couple gets there first can choose the alternate options, or email them ahead of time to let them know the deal. If they don’t like the options – which are quite gracious of you to offer and accommodate – they can always get a hotel room, or if you’re feeling particularly generous, offer to book one for them.
Post # 14
Overjoyed : Haha yes. It is a truth universally acknowledged, that two adults in an active sexual relationship will be in want of sexy-time over Christmas 😉 It would be unfair to deny them the opportunity to do as they please over Christmas. If they do, or don’t it’s totally up to them. ‘Tis the season of loving.
IDK, but when I was single I would always offer the couple the bedroom and sleep on the couch, or when me and Fiance had accomodation with a family member/friend, it was basically understood that the couple got the double bed/room with privacy. I wouldn’t kick the couple off the bed saying that ‘No! I RSVPed first. Sleep on the futon losers!!’.
Considering that putting the twins together is not feasible, if I was a guest and I had to choose between the bar room and the open concept living room, I’d go with the bar room anyday. PP made a good point about hanging an temporary curtain on the glass.
As for the couple without the room feeling like a second-class citizen, unfortunately it’s the nature of the beast. I’m sure they signed up knowing that you have only two guest bedrooms and someone’s going to draw the short stick.
Post # 15
I’d offer them the bar room w/ the pullout or air mattress. If that’s not suitable they are welcome to go to a hotel.
We had two guest rooms at our old house. Both upstairs and one was actually larger than our master. It had a huge king size bedroom suit, the other had a full size bed (mine from my parents house). Everyone who had to sleep in the little bed always got the short end of the stick because the mattress wasn’t that comfortable either. My theory was they could either be happy to stay there, or pay for a hotel.