(Closed) Where should we get married? Please help, I feel lost!!!

posted 9 years ago in Venue
Post # 3
595 posts
Busy bee

I think if I were you, I would find a really quaint and beautiful mountain resort, and have your wedding there. That way, it will have a destination ‘feel’ to it and everyone can be together. It can almost be like a little reunion for everyone. It will be special for you two, because you’ll be heading away on a vacation as well (even if it’s not very far). Then you can organize things for everyone over the weekend (maybe a brunch and nice rehearsal dinner).


Post # 4
7960 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

we had an intimate wedding with only 38 guests and it was wonderful.  we had the same questions when we started planning.  we decided to get married where we both used to live b/c most of our guests were there and we knew the area.  fewer people had to travel.  i planned the whole wedding in less than 6 months from out of the country by internet, email and phone. 

as for space, there are smaller venues available.  i found a lot of options for our small wedding.  hotels usually have various sizes of rooms available.  also check historical sites, museums and country clubs.

let me know if you have any more questions.  enjoy.

Post # 5
157 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 1997

Over the years I can say that all the couples I have met have had nice ceremonies. They were touching, personal and heartfelt. No matter where you have your ceremony it will be special as long as you feel it is special. So the question is what makes it special for you? Is it the backyard of your warm and cozy home? The beach with the pacific ocean lapping at the shore or is it a destination a little farther away? All of these venues, can be romantic and special, you just need to feel it. 

When I married my DH, we wanted the nice park wedding with tons of family and friends. Flowers everywhere and a pretty little gazebo. However, we eloped and settled for a small green field off the side of the highway. People were slowing down honking their horns and waving at us. It was special because we were getting married, it could have been the darkest crater on the moon for all we cared. Marrying him was amazing. I would do it again in a heartbeat. 

So what will make it special for you? The elopement, 14 close family/friends or the full 60 – if they all can make it? 

See only you can answer that question. But don’t worry, you really can’t go wrong if you are truly in love, it makes no difference. It will be special to you anywhere you have it. 

Or, that is my opinion at least.

Post # 6
545 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Very similar stories! I was having the same thoughts and it slowly morphed into what I’m planning now–a dw in the Smoky Mountains.

#1. I can help you if you have more specific questions. PM me anytime you want! I HIGHLY recommend you check out the wedding stories on this site and look at pics/ read the interviews. It seriously was such a life saver for me. I LOVE it. It will answer all your questions and help you realize if this is really what you want. http://www.intimateweddings.com/blog/category/real-weddings/

#2/#3: We’re inviting about 50, and expect 20-35 (including us). Our venue is gorgeous but not a huge ballroom type. This gives us so much flexibility. It would be perfect for 10-60, even more if we chose a tented reception outside. We want it inside though. We chose a lodge in the mountains and I seriously could not be happier. We live in Florida and wanted something different and more “us”. Don’t stress too much about it. When you start telling people it’s a dw you kind of get a feel from their reactions if they’ll be able to even consider the trip. For example, I asked for everyone’s addresses on facebook and a few people just said congratulations and didn’t include their addy because they KNEW for a fact they wouldn’t be able to make it. 

I am so so happy we went this route and wouldn’t have it any other way. When we started planning our original 200+ guest wedding nothing seemed to stick, or even make us giddy. It just wasn’t for us.

Now we get to spend quality time with all of our BEST friends and CLOSEST family. Not my mom’s “co-worker who invited my mom to her daughter’s wedding so now mom has to invite her back or else” etc. 

We are adding so many personal touches, and making this such a memorable reuinion.

If you have more detailed questions pM me 🙂

Post # 12
545 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@Loggers15:  We’re splitting the costs of lodging among guests, and for the 6 days Fiance and I are stocking the lodge with food/supplies (out of our own $). $300 per couple includes all meals (paid by us) and lodging for nearly a week. Many guests are doing a roadtrip which will save them some money too.

Post # 13
165 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

It sounds like you are on the right path to getting what you want.  I like smaller weddings so much more then the larger ones and I personally would rather have the $$ to spend on the honeymoon.

I love Lulu’s link!!


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