- 5 months ago
Thank you so much for your help – I’m hoping that through writing this out or in receiving responses we will achieve some greater clarity.
We’ve been engaged for over half a year already and haven’t made any progress in planning our wedding. Primarily, this is because just after getting engaged, we quit our jobs to move to Europe from Colorado to live/travel abroad and study different masters degrees. To a lesser degree, neither of us are hugely motivated by a particular wedding vision. If we coud summarize our goal it would be this: have a meaningful day (or weekend, if possible) spending quality time with our families and closest friends while enjoying excellent food in a relaxing locale.
We’re both US citizens so we’re likely to end up back in the US somewhere at some point in our lives. However, before accepting job offers, we don’t know where we’ll be after July/August 2017. It could be anywhere in the world as we’d love to travel a bit more before having kids. My family is all over central US and Canada, South America, and Asia. His is mostly in the eastern US and UK.
It’s difficult to plan a wedding remotely but unless we ask guests to buy trans-Atlantic tickets, we will be doing so. We could wait another three-four months in case things become more clear but we’d like to be married sooner rather than later for various reasons.
Our four best options as we see them (PROs)[CONs]:
1. Mexico (great weather, relaxed beach wedding, delicious/gourmet food, great memories for us, maybe easier to plan remotely)[everyone travels, zika]
2. Colorado (where we met and lived together, where my immediate family and most mutual friends live, beautiful rocky mountains, Denver offers modern venue options)[we’d love a mountain venue since we’re huge hikers but don’t want to make travelling in the rockies difficult for guests and venues in our price range are too rustic (we’re not hunters and don’t own cowboy boots, not that there’s anything wrong with either of those, it would just feel disingenuous for us as a couple to represent our marriage this way)]
3. D.C. (where his immediate family lives, he feels connection)[not hugely meaningful, lots of confederate flags outside of the city, quite expensive]
4. Mid-west (where the largest concentration of guests live)[he feels no connection and I haven’t lived there in over a decade]
Thank you again very much for reading this and for your help!! Any advice or input on these options and those in the poll would be appreciated. <3