(Closed) Where the heck am I going to live?!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

move in with Fiance as soon as you can…. preferably BEFORE any rent is expected. Then refuse if she asks for anything. Eff that b*tch.

It shouldn’t be a problem for you since you said you haven’t been staying with your room-mate anyways.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

He email was direct and to the point.  It was a little rude to pretty much demand you to move out by the Oct 15 for the new roommate when you already told her Nov, BUT I can see why she would want to secure this roommate and try to get you out a little earlier.  I think she could’ve worded the email a ton better though.  I’m not sure what area you are in, but where I’m around, other than end of Aug/Sept when the school year starts, i think its pretty hard to get rental turn around.  I would leave ASAP, why waste another few weeks on rent when you barely live there as it is.

Post # 5
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5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

not knowing her i dont read her email as curt – i mean you havent lived there since March and even though you pay your rent she still might prefer an actual roommate there and as she can secure one now i guess she decided straight and to the point works better.  as you have been living at your FI’s since march i guess thats the best place for you to live

btw you said you consider her a pretty good friend but you only go there to pay rent and clean your room – if thats the only contact since march maybe she is feeling a bit hurt as well as you right now

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I didn’t read the email as curt either. It was direct. As a good friend I wouldn’t want someone to present it that way, but maybe it was easier for her to do it this way. I would just move in with Fiance since it seems like you’re already living there. Why are you paying her now anyways? why have you waited if you’re always staying there?

She might be hurt by the fact that you never stay. 

Post # 9
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955 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I can understand being upset about the short notice. But I don’t find her email to be rude/mean. Since you said you haven’t stayed there since March I can see why she would think it isn’t a big deal to ask you to move out early. I just don’t think she is considering it takes a little time to get things together and set up to move. I agree with PP that she might have been upset that you don’t stay there.  I would talk to her about it and try and talk it out. Let her know how it made you feel. I wouldn’t want it to cause issues in your friendship, seems like a silly thing to cause issues IMO.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Grizz: It seemed short..but shes probably stressed about the new roommate situation. Just tell her youll be out by the first so any attitudes/problems cant bring down your friendship. 

Post # 11
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7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@Grizz: ahh ok that makes sense. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Even though she sounded curt in comparison to how she normally communicates, she may be doing it to make sure she covers her bases. Some people have a LOT of trouble with having roommates leave, and she may be trying to avoid this (but going about it in the wrong way).

I would e-mail her back to ask why she wants you to leave earlier when you told her more than a month ago that you would be leaving in November.

Post # 13
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27 posts
Newbee

Would anyone really know if you just moved in?

Post # 14
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5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’m still paying because I knew it was helping her out since she had a pay cut,

you were not “helping her out” – you were paying rent because you needed a place to call home because of how you living with your Fiance would look bad to others and in the meantime you had a room/utilities at your friends place that she couldnt rent out to someone else as it was your room.  i know i sound like a bitch but dont try to colour it as you were doing her a favour – she couldnt rent out the room because you had claim to it

although you have been paying the rent you havent lived there since March and she obviously is going to need someone to rent it in 7weeks time when you no longer need her and she found someone sooner than later

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Grizz: Sorry to say it but since you don’t have a lease she is not obligated to give you notice. One would usually at the very least, and out of courtesy, give 30 days notice to a roommate/tenant in most places, so she gave you the most notice she could under the circumstances, having just learned of your move date over a week ago. While it was a pretty cut and dry email and might have hurt your feelings, take it with a grain of salt, gather your belongings and go. Keep it simple, don’t cause more drama, just be cordial and move in the time allotted. If anyone in the family has a problem with this, tell them you tried your best to remain in your place but you cannot. If they want to do the legwork and pay for you to live elsewhere until you are married in just one more month, they’re more than welcome to help out. 😉 Good luck to you in your new home!

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