(Closed) Where the heck is Upstatecait??

posted 8 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 287
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9816 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

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@sweetchiquita12:  I wondered that as well, her wedding pics were some of my favorites.

Post # 288
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

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@MrsFuzzyFace:  I had a similar experience with UpstateCait and a couple of others following me from thread to thread when I was at a particularly low ebb. I didn’t end up changing my username or leaving, but I came really close.

Post # 289
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

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@SpecialSundae:  I have had four bees PM me since last night to say the same thing.

Post # 290
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Bee Keeper

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@KatyElle:  I loved her wedding pics too! The lovely winter wedding!

Post # 292
Hostess
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Sugar Beekeeper

To be honest I am incredibly careful about what I post. I read and re-read my postings most of the time to try and be sure that I have not offended or mispoken in a way that could offend. And to be additionally honest I think it is a little ridiculous that anyone has to be this careful when amongst adults that are strangers discussing a wide variety of topics.

I have never flagged anyone (that I can remember) but I have raised an eye brow once or twice as things I’ve read. My motto is suck it up and speak out….flagging is a passive agressive way of dealing with an issue (IMHO). I have PM’d someone to discuss something further or to clear up an oversight.

I’m curious when reading about people that feel bullied what particular topics were being addressed at the time. Where they heated discussions? Controversial?

Post # 293
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Just commenting to find/read later…

Post # 294
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

How disappointing. She was a wonderful member of this community. The mods need to weigh up what people bring to the table vs minor perceived infractions. Urg. 

Post # 295
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Upstatecait could get a bit carried away. She sometimes came across as being like a dog with a bone. I can see why people felt harassed on occasions. 

I don’t think her opinions were necessarily wrong, but I think maybe her judgement on when to just let it go was off. 

Post # 296
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Oh dear. I really liked UpstateCait and KGM :'(  and yeah, where IS deathbydesign? 

Post # 297
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

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@ToTheMoonAndBack: I think you’ve struck the nail on the head. 

Post # 298
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

interesting.  8 pages and we have learned

  • upstatecait is banned
  • some people liked upstatecait
  • some people did not like upstatecait
  • KGM was banned.. oh wait, KGM wasn’t banned
  • Some people are wondering where deathbydesign is 

Post # 299
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@Lt.Columbo:  Let’s spice this up a little!  Is it too late to add a poll?  ;o)

Post # 301
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Should we post pictures of Gus?

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