(Closed) Where the heck is Upstatecait??

posted 8 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 362
Member
11376 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Lets all just agree to disagree on who did or did not like Upstatecait. Point is she is banned & can no longer post to entertain or to upset those of the hive, which ever it was for each bee.

It is always sad to me when one member gets banned. And it is usually always sad to most of us here, at least that we can agree on. But we must remember, the MODS are always trying to keep the peace & never ban someone for no reason.

I am sure she is lurking & reading this thread. So just everyone who DID like her, give her a shout out to let her know she is very well missed! 🙂

Post # 363
Member
5009 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

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@hammerpants  If it makes you feel better, some of your comments upset me as much as Cait’s did. Go you!

Post # 364
Member
963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

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@peachacid  that’s true and I agree that sometimes people complain about being hurt when someone is really just speaking a hard truth. But that’s why most of us don’t have power to moderate comments or ban users. Those things only happen when enough people find a comment snarky/hurtful/against the ToS and flag it. Even if the poster didn’t intend something to be hurtful or some people don’t see it as hurtful, I think a comment should be moderated if enough people on the site find it hurtful. And if a poster has a habit of posting such comments, then I do think they should be banned. Just like it’s important to try not to infer tone from someone else’s post, it’s also important to word your own posts so they won’t come across as hurtful.

Post # 365
Member
3774 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

We are all here to have fun, not say ugly and mean things to each other.  Life is full of painful and harsh treatment, wouldn’t be nice if we could all come and enjoy our time here without being made to feel stupid, wrong, etc.  Surely if we don’t have anything nice to say, we can just take the opportunity to not say anything.  Who have we become when we feel we have the right to say ugly things to strangers because we can or we feel justified because of their posts.  I don’t demand that anyone agree with me, but treat me with respect.  I don’t believe anyone here can say that I have been rude to them, that is because I believe in treating people, even ones I disagree with, kindly.  Perhaps I expect too much. 

Post # 366
Member
3774 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

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@hammerpants  I noticed it and ignored it.  They contacted me to say “we see this and don’t think it is right how you are being treated”.

Post # 367
Member
299 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

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@SpecialSundae  No, it doesn’t make me feel better because I didn’t feel bad to begin with.  *shrug*   I don’t coddle people on the boards.  We’re all adults here, if you can’t take criticism, you shouldn’t put yourself out there on the internet.  Unless you choose to blog, of course.  Blogging is great for sharing without recieving negative feedback.  You can even change the settings so only approved users can comment!

Post # 368
Member
9479 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think this thread has run its course as its gotten way off track from its original content. The mod team knows that this is a tightly knit community.  We don’t make any decisions around here lightly without a lot of consideration and discussion. We wish the best for UpstateCait and hope that those of you who want to stay in touch with her can find a way to do so!

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