Post # 1
I am CLUELESS to all things wedding. So I will be posting alot. I thankful for all feedback you offer good or bad.
I was able to visit Puerto Rico and St. Thomas for a few days to check out or locations since the hurricanes.
I made little travel suitcase that I will be mailing once everyone is completely paid they will include a letter, cruise luggage tags, what to pack list for a cruise, coffee from the island, lotion from bath and body works, and kate apsen suitcase luggage tags.
I’m not sure if the hotel will distribute welcome bags as guest check or if I will.
I don’t want to schedule too many activities, but this will be a first cruise for many. Thinking about just listing some optional events throughout the cruise.
I am struggling with events. Guest will be arriving to San Juan, Puerto Rico. Most of our guest are arriving on Saturday and Sunday. Now this is a 7 day cruise we will all have dinner together and I thought about everyone just meeting up for a drink before dinner
Friday dinner (on your own OR do we pay the bill “NOTSURE” what is the proper way) at local restaurant 5pm and dancing at 10pm local bar all optional events. (we will provide transportation)
Saturday- Welcome party at hotel patio 7pm (food and drinks provided)
Sunday- Board ship (I feel like I should plan a sail away gathering but not sure) Any thoughts
Monday- Wedding Day
Tuesday- Seaday Brunch
Wednesday- 4th of July on the Beach in Barbados
Thursday-Lip Sync Battle/Comedy Show
Friday- Cocktail Party thanking guest for traveling
Saturday- Lip Sync Battle/Comedy
Sunday- Head Home
Post # 2
How many people are going to your wedding/on the cruise?
Are you paying for this cruise or are your guests?
If guests are paying for their own holiday id let them just enjoy there own holiday once your wedding is over. Im guessing its only a small number going so id just informally let people know your plans and let them know they are more than welcome to join you.
Id hate to pay out big sum of money for a 7 day cruise and then feel obliged to work around your activities/plans every single day.
Post # 3
pocahontas28 : agreed. There’s also no amount of booze that would make me partipate in a lip sync battle (or watch it either..)
Post # 4
I would keep your plans for saturday, Monday and Friday. Saturday and Friday can be optional, but if I was a guest I’d do my best to be there. Let your guests enjoy their vacation the rest of the time.
Post # 5
If I were to go on a cruise that left on a Sunday, there’s no way I would get there on Friday night. I wouldn’t get there until late Saturday night at the earliest so if I were you I wouldn’t plan on get together meals Friday and Saturday night. Instead I’d plan something for Sunday before you board the ship. Maybe breakfast or brunch depending on the time you have to board.
The other activities are fine but honestly, I would not attend a lip sync battle. Sorry, sounds kind of lame. Assuming your guests are paying for the cruise themselves, I think one activity a day for you to plan is sufficient. I know I would want to spend the rest of that time on a cruise that is not of my choosing relaxing and doing my own thing.
I’ve never heard of a cruise or hotel sending out welcome bags. I personally don’t think they’re necessary and I’m super picky about lotion. If you want to include something, maybe see if you can get some drink vouchers and a list of things to see or do at the ports.
Post # 6
If a number of the guests don’t know each other, I highly suggest letting them know where you’ll be for cocktails through dinner each night. This way, they have the option of joining you or doing their own thing. Solo travelers will appreciate having a few daytime get togethers, too.
I’ve attended destination weddings where the “wedding activities” were separated from “things you might like to join us for”, so that ppl didn’t feel obligated to join. It can really be a nice mix.
If you only have a few guests who are well known to each other, this will be much easier. I’d swap lotion for bug spray/ sunscreen, since I think ppl are less picky about those items (and are soooo happy to have them when they’re needed)
Post # 7
tlynn1218 : Since your wedding is kind of a week of “forced fun,” I’d let guests do their own thing. You can suggest things and make them optional.
Is there a reason to start on Friday, when the cruise starts on Sunday? I think doing something on Sunday will be enough.
Post # 8
pocahontas28 : Hi Pocahontas- Thanks for the response. There will be 20 guest attending. I totally don’t want to schedule any events, but everyone has been asking what excursions we will be doing and events. So we thought we would list some optional activities just as a suggestions. I would prefer to meet for a drink prior to or after dinner.
Post # 9
.Does the cruise itself not issue an itinary of events for the week. Perhaps just let others know of what things you plan on going to and they can decide themselves whether to join you or not. Same with excursions, let others know what,if any, excursions you are doing at each port and they can book if they like. There will be so much organised on the ship itself i wouldnt be going planning extra myself.
Post # 10
I had a destination wedding [not at a resort or cruise. So, people were at all different places/hotels] we planned a welcome dinner and we paid. We also had our welcome boxes filled with sunscreen, water, lotion, snacks, pain reliever, ECT. Also included was a a note indicating a place where we were getting drinks one night and another day a time and place to meet for a hike and we scheduled a private guided tour of the area for our guests another day. The note made it very clear these things were optional. Most of the guests showed. I think they liked it because they got to spend time with bride and groom and they didn’t have to plan anything. If they didn’t come, no big deal. I think people underestimate how little guests plan activities for a Destination Wedding. I think they are looking to the bride and groom for guidance. I took the approach that I was hosting them and needed to make sure they had something to do if they wanted to. We also paid for any extra activities like the tour and dinner. People have already spent so much. You are the host; your responsibility.
You’ll have guests that are used to travelling so they planned things to do at the destination and treating it as a vacation but we found that to be a small percentage.
Post # 11
ribbonsandbling : Thank you for responding. Not sure if I mentioned in original post, but most guest are first time cruisers and not experienced travellers. We plan on paying for dinner on Friday night and an excursion, but were not sure of etiquette.