(Closed) Where to deliver?

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: Where would you deliver?
    Mt. Auburn and guarantee our new little family isn't spending out first night sleeping apart : (25 votes)
    71 %
    MGH and risk husband not being able to stay after delivery : (10 votes)
    29 %
  • Post # 16
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2010

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    LilliV :  Sounds like you already made up your mind and you’re just looking for approval. If you want your husband to stay with you, deliver at the hospital where he can stay with you…..

    Post # 18
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    private room FOR SURE. the shit you go through during recovery isn’t something i’d want to share with a random person. i would think it’s super important to have your husband there to experience all that with you.

    Post # 19
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I would HATE not having a private room. PP is not pretty, and I wouldn’t want to share that with a complete stranger. It’s bad enough having doctors and nurses coming in constantly. I also wouldn’t want to not be able to have Darling Husband with me. It would really stress me out if my baby was crying and waking up the other mom/baby in the room and vice versa. Just no to sharing a room in practically every way.

    Post # 20
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2016

    That’s a hard one considering the NICU issue. I had a healthy pregnancy with no complications and then our son ended up in the NICU unexpectedly after birth. His father being able to stay in the room with me those couple nights was really precious- we were able to begin to care for our baby together- which was helpful since I was anxious with all of the unexpected things that were going on.

    That said, I have a friend who had a healthy pregnancy with no complications and an easy delivery with no complications and she was able to go home within a few hours of her son’s birth. 

    There’s no way of knowing for sure, so I’d plan to go with the hospital where you can be assured of a private room and your husband being there and take comfort in the fact that you can change your mind and plan relatively easily.

    Post # 21
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    I’m delivering at Mt. Auburn. It is still a great hospital and I’m not really worried about it at all. 

    Post # 22
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2017

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    LilliV :  I’m sorry I continue to post, but I completely disagree with not treating every pregnancy like a “medical emergency”.  I’m sure my thinking is because I have a lot of doctors in my family and I hear stories all.the.time.  Things can happen so quickly.  You of course have to do with what you feel comfortable doing but I couldn’t take that chance.  You said yourself there’s less than a 10% chance of not having a private room at MGH so it sounds like you would have a private room most likely anyway.

    Edit – my Brother-In-Law did not stay with my sister the first night after she had her first, actually, not with any of their kids.  She told him to go home where he actually could get some rest.  The first night you’re going to be woken up by the nurses many times to check you so you do not get a lot of rest.

    Post # 23
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

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    sunnierdaysahead2 :  Going with a midwife essentially means that person does not view every pregnancy or birth as a ‘medical emergency’. Midwives are trained to treat normal pregnancies as a normal part of life. Yes, things can happen quickly, but midwives are trained to deal with those situations. I’m sure people deliver healthy babies and otherwise at both of OPs hospital choices.

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    LilliV :  I don’t think you can go wrong with either choice of hospital. Both will have trained medical professionals on hand to deal with whatever situation arises. If you want your husband there the whole time, choose that hospital 🙂 In Canada, if you use a midwife to deliver, you typically only stay at the hospital for three hours post-partum!

    Post # 25
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

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    LilliV :  How quickly can you change hospitals if necessary? I guess I ask because I know a few health care workers and their antidotal experience (which has only a bit to do with reality) is that a lot of babies in the NICU are premie-IVF baby.  If you picked your preferred hospital, but went into labor at 32 weeks, would you be able to change to the hospital with the better NICU on the fly?  I guess that would be my deciding factor, but like you, I lean private room.

    Post # 27
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2017

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    courtneysokal :  I didn’t criticize her choice of having a midwife or seeing that pregnancy and childbirth is not a “medical emergency”, I just said for me personally I disagree.  And as I further explained it is because of what I have heard from my family and Fiance, so my point of view can definitely be biased.  My point was for me, why take that chance?  I think too many people think “it can’t happen to me” and I was just providing another point of view.

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    Misswhowedding :  I don’t know that there are studies out there, but my sister did say a LOT of the preemies/former preemies that end up in the NICU are fertility babies.  She also does not know the connection, but her experience is you are much more likely to go into preterm labor having going through fertility treatments than having conceived a child without medical intervention.  Her best friend is a neonatologist and she has another good friend that is an OB/GYN that have seen this as well.

    Post # 29
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2017

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    LilliV :  I don’t think you’re automatically considered “high risk” just because you went through fertility treatments (but you know a lot more than me in that area).  Doctors, not just fertility doctors, are constrained by patient’s financial restraints in all areas so I don’t agree that they don’t always utilize “best” practices.  There are practices that are referred to as “gold standard” which is what you ideally would want to do/use first, but many times they have to go to Plan B or C.  I’m certainly not trying to start an argument, so please don’t take my comments that way.  You asked in your first post what would you do, and I was just answering based on my experience.

    Post # 30
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2016

    I’d probably go for the one with the private room provided the hospital has:

    1. A blood bank on site – big PPH is not that uncommon, and is not the time you want to have to get blood sent in by courier

    2. both an adult and a neonatal ICU just in case of an unexpected complication. They can happen in even the lowest of low risk pregnancies too. 

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