Where to find a childfree guy

posted 2 years ago in 30 Something
Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper

happycomelately :  A lot of the online dating sites have the search function of no kids or undecided now. I have a friend who is CFBC who is currently using e-harmony and has found plenty of guys in their 30/40’s who do not want kids.

 

Post # 17
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Bumble Beekeeper

Sperm bank? The men who donate might be ok with babies made with their DNA but don’t necessarily want to be a father figure to them. 

Seriously, though, it’s probably just best to be up front from the early dates of your intentions to be childfree or to make it clear on your online dating profile. 

Post # 18
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Blushing bee

sassy411 :  “A few caveats:  guys in their 40s often have teenagers—good luck with that.  But, if you don’t move in with him right away, in a few years, they may well be out of his day to day life.”

 I would think it’s often not a good idea to start dating a guy with teenagers just to wait for them to move out. I can see this leading to all kinds of problematic situations where the guy gets forced to choose between doing things with you or the kids, the kids will most likely notice you don’t want them around and feel hurt, unwanted etc.

Post # 19
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

What alot of people have already said: Online dating, and be very clear that you do not want to have children. OKC is a good one and it’s where I met my own childfree fiance. 

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

The vasectomy clinic 

Post # 22
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Blushing bee

Why everyone on this forum seems to think CFBC are hard to find.I can’t call ,yself CFBC since I am still having doubts…but I’ve met so many CBC people…I think the key it to move to a bigger city

Post # 23
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2018

I found many guys who had no kids and who wanted no kids online, mostly on the free dating sites.  Now, they were older guys, late 30s early 40s, which is the age I was looking for (I was 37) but it was easy for me to find.

 

So…online is my recommendation. Don’t spend any money, the paid sites are a joke.  The free sites worked the best for me!

Post # 24
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

They exist. But people and what they want often change. 

Post # 25
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Helper bee

Online… I met my Dh mid 30s and he very clearly stated he wanted no kids so I knew exactly where he stood. Mind you, as others have said it was on a free site and we live in a big metropolitan city.

Post # 26
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Busy bee

vanessa9090 :  dude this thread is a year old. Quit reviving all these dead threads! Start a new one!

Post # 27
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018 - Mount Princeton hot springs

CanMurph :  “You could date men who are 40 or 50. Even if they have kids they will probably be adults or close to.”

haha I’m not sure if this advice is sincere or sarcastic but it’s true. Not sure of your age OP but my husband is 45 and I’m 27. He already had college age children when we met. I have never wanted to be a mother and he doesn’t want anymore children. when we started getting more serious he brought it up and once he knew how I felt we were good to go! However I did not intentionally look for a man older than me it just kind of happened. I’d really just suggest honest communication about your intentions! 

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