Post # 1
I am in professional school (vet) and my fiancée just left for Iraq. We want to get married as soon as he gets back in November because by then we will have been engaged for 16 months. BUT, there are so many other complicating factors, read on… My family is in Oklahoma, his is in Wyoming. We met while at school at Oklahoma State University and he stayed there for me after he graduated. I am doing my internship year in Arizona, where he will join me when he comes home. So you see our dilemna here… where the heck do we have this thing?
Oklahoma? The bride’s home is traditional.
Wyoming? After all, the groom has a bigger family.
Arizona? It would be easier to plan from there.
Colorado? Our families could meet in the middle that way.
Now let’s add in a few more complicating factors: Airfare to or from Wyoming is not cheap, this state is the definition of middle-of-nowhere and has no respectable airport so tickets cost nearly $600. Did I mention that the most important people in my fiancee’s family have three children each? Now $600 for a plane ticket makes me sweat but I can’t imagine having to pay for 3 rugrat’s tickets too. We can’t do that to them.
So meeting in Colorado where no one has to fly seems like the best option here, right? Well I agree but my inner tightwad is objecting because that is also the most expensive option. It makes me queasy to think of blowing so much money on one day – especially given our financial situation – I’ll explain. I just graduated vet school which put me over $100k in debt and I’ll be doing further academic training instead of taking a real job so I’ll be making a really measly salary. He makes decent money but we have a lot of goals. I want to own my own practice soon, he wants to start his own business and we both drive old cars we’d like to upgrade (10 year old Toyota and 15 year old Honda) and let’s not forget the honeymoon.
ACK! Any suggestions? Thanks ladies.
Post # 3
I think Colorado is definitely your best bet. I think if you’re finding it’s expensive you’re looking in the wrong places! Look for a more rural location! Maybe look at Fort Collins or somewhere in that area.
We did the same thing for our wedding, we married in Colorado Springs which was basically meeting in the middle of our families.
I think anywhere you choose to have a wedding you can find less expensive alternatives to what you want to do, you just may need to be a bit more creative.
Post # 4
Mrs Cowboy Boot had a beautiful wedding in Colorado – – You should check out her blog posts on here….I think a wedding in Colorado would also be your best bet, like MightSapphire said!!!
Post # 5
It seems like you could a) do a wedding at a 1/2way location or b)do a progressive wedding….have a small ceremony & reception at each location. We’re lucky to be from the same home town (Dallas) but most of my family is in England. If my grandparents weren’t coming to the wedding I would have had a small ceremony&reception in Dallas and repeat it in England.
Post # 6
We’re having our wedding in Colorado! Of course it helps that I live here 🙂 FI’s parents are in OK, my parents are in Seattle, and everyone else is scattered all over the country. I think we have about 5 local guests. It is absolutely beautiful here; however, November could be really hit or miss. It can snow, the leaves could be gone, etc, etc. But, Denver is a direct flight from anywhere and used to handling snow. We expect our wedding for 100+ to be around 15k (including dress and rings, but not rehearsal dinner or honeymoon). Fort Collins (where I live) is probably cheaper than Denver, Boulder, Estes Park, or other typical Colorado destination wedding locations. It’s also a straight shot from Laramie or Cheyenne. There’s a van-shuttle from the airport and the town is very compact. Since you’ll be planning from afar you probably want a non-diy location – try the Tapestry House – I think you’ll find everyone raves about it and you might get a discount in November and you can even stay there. If you want to go for a more typical place like Estes Park I’m sure you’ll find that they’re really used to destination weddings and can make it easy for you. If you want more Fort Collins info I can let you know all our vendors.