(Closed) Where to give birth?

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

to be honest? i wouldn’t care if there was a limit on a number of visitors. i would be more concerned with the quality of care. if we’re still in my “home” area when we have kids, i know what hospital i’m delivering at, purely because they have one of the best labor and delivery departments in the area. it’s one of the best rated, and i’d be more comfortable there.

plus, hospital rooms are small. they get cramped easily. i wouldn’t want more than 2 or 3 people at a time with me. know what i mean?

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@ScottishMrs:  Whoa whoa.  That’s a *LOT* of people.  Trust me, I’m from a big family too but I think that you will want (need) time to recover, sleep, get to know your baby, etc in the hospital and it really isn’t the place for so many people to come.  I generally recommend to keeping visitors in the first 5-7 days to grandparents, aunts/uncles (ie your siblings, partner’s siblings) and your best friend or 2.  Cousins, extended family, friends should wait until at least a week or more.  The first days can be rough and overwhelming and you’ll need to rest.

 

That’s just my 2 cents, for what it’s worth.

 

p.s. my visiting guidelines are the same home/hospital.

ETA: a 2 visitor max (aside from one 24h support person, usually the partner/SO) is typical across most hospitals, for several reasons (space, infection control, privacy etc).  And usually no one under age 16 unless they’re baby’s siblings.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

@ScottishMrs:  I think you should look at the care & focus less on the visitors! Take the first few days to learn about baby and then when you’re home, fill the house!!!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@ScottishMrs:  i didn’t mean to offend, if that’s how i came off. i figured that you would have looked at the level of care, i didn’t mean to sound like i thought you didn’t care about that.

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I am guessing they just limit the number in the birth suite to 2 at a time- not that they limit it to 2 total?  So they could be in the waiting room and take turns, right? In US we are only in hosptial 2 days or less, so couldn’t they just visit at home?

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Why not let immediate family visit you in the hospital, then allow the others to come see the baby once you’re settled at home? How long are hospital stays usually in Canada?

I like the thought of birthing at home too. But I would want everything and every doctor available if there was an emergency.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Even if you love seeing everyone at once now, you might not feel that way when you’re exhausted, sore, and leaking from all sorts of places while you try to get breast feeding down and deal with the swelling, possible tearing and bleeding from your lady bits.

Even then, just because you love seeing the whole clan at once, does not mean that it’s best for your brand new baby. That many people would likely be way too much stimulation for a new little one to deal with, especially all at once. Your baby isn’t a hot potato to be passed around to everyone, they’ll really just want to snuggle and nurse with you. You also don’t know how your inner mama bear will feel about everyone holding/touching/breathing on  your baby!

The hospitals really know what they’re doing, and when the time comes I don’t think you’re going to care all that much about the two person visit. If you’re up to it, by all means get in visits with all the people you love, but you will probably want to space them out a bit and make them nice and short. Two people at a time for a 10 or 15 minute visits gives everyone a chance to meet the new baby without overwhelming you or baby.

Your only job is to bond with your new baby and heal, I would wait and see how you feel after birth and play the visits by ear. If people want to know in advance, you can say that you’ll be accepting two people at a time for very short visits and you’ll give them a call to let them know when you’re ready to see them. 

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

10 siblings plus grandparents, etc will not be allowed in when you are giving birth. Also, this isnt about them – it’s about what you and your SO think. The fact that they even allow people outside of the two of you is quite liberal, IMO. This is the time to do what YOU feel most comfortable with – it is in no way about what your army of family wants. They will be overbearing enough after the baby arrives, haha.

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@ScottishMrs:  You really want people visiting you in hospital? I wouldn’t.

Wait a couple days and have people over when you’re in the comfort of your own home, feeling a bit better, etc.

Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@ScottishMrs:  I get what you’re saying, but surely they wouldn’t expect you to lift a finger, geez.. you just gave birth! Let the hubby do all that hehe.

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