(Closed) Where to have ceremony and reception? I'm American, he's Scottish

posted 4 years ago in Intercultural
Post # 3
960 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@ifwinterends:  Have you discussed where you’re going to live after the wedding?


My suggestion (and this is because my brother was almost going to marry someone who originated from the Ukraine and we’re in Canada)

Get married and have a service and reception for the family in the country you will NOT be living in and invite immediate family from the other country to this reception as well.

Have a reception and perhaps small vow ceremony, for the other side of the family in the country you will be living in after the wedding, immediate family would be invited to this one as well.

You can’t be upset if people do not attend BOTH services as thats really a lot to place on people but it would be a nice way to include everyone. If immediate family wants to make the international trip they can, but if not, oh well. Thats a reality you have to face and thus the reason in holding both receptions.


My brother was going to do that, get married in the Ukraine and have a receoption for her family there (his immediate family invited to attended if we wished) and then a 2nd reception in Canada with a small vow service and her immediate family would be invited if they wished.

Everyone was happy with this arrangement.

Post # 6
3919 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m American, FI is Scottish (He lives here brut his parents are still in Glasgow) 

we are getting married in Scotland. If you legally marry it here, it’s recognized here. You don’t have to do two legal ceremonies. 

To get married in Scotland, YOU need a marriage visa. You have to apply for this, with a stupid amount of paperwork, to be able to marry in Scotland. If you get married here, you FI will need a fiancé visa and all the paperwork that goes with that. 

there are you planning to live after the wedding? That is where I’d do the legal ceremony. 

Post # 8
1480 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC

@ifwinterends:  sweetie good luck with all of this. We lived in spain but im from UK and FI from US. It is stressful deciding im not going to lie but in the end we decided on US, the wedding is in the US (due to visa reasons, logistics, who can travel vs who cant it just worked out better) 

But we refused to do the wedding in his home state. Everybody has to travel for it, it seemed only fair. Does that mean some people wont come, yes. The important people should though. My family happy because they get a holiday and its now sounding fun but they werent always happy about it. Same with his. People do come around and change their minds. 

Also remember to do what makes you happy 🙂


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