Post # 1
Member
3 posts
Wannabee
Hi ladies,
I posted a couple months ago about my missed miscarriage at 10 weeks. I ended up having to have TWO d&c because of retained product and it was a very traumatic experience that lasted 6 weeks.
I was trying for 9 months to get pregnant, 5 of them seriously trying with opk.
I’m 31 years old so don’t want to waste much time. My specialist recommended starting cycle tracking in a couple of months but hubby thinks it’s too soon and to give it more time without medical intervention as it will stress me out even more.
I am extremely stressed and can get depressed at times. I have difficulty talking about babies and wonder if it will ever happen for me. My best friend is pregnant due the same month as I would of been.
So what I want to know is what do you think I should do next? Seek fertility support? Or see if it happens naturally for a while?
Do you know of anyone who has had a similar experience?
Thanks girls, I am so so lost.
Post # 2
Member
479 posts
Helper bee
I would talk to your GP about your options. I am also 31, and I have had three failed pregnancies over the last five years. I’m currently on the waitlist for funded IVF due to a tubal abnormality. At 31, we don’t have too much to worry about with age, but I do wish I had gone to my GP to be referred to a fertility specialist sooner to get things started. I think it would be better to talk to someone about your options and not end up needing them rather than find out years down the track that you need some fertility assistance. Its difficult to approach trying to conceive without being anxious when you’ve experienced loss, and then its taken longer than you’d like to conceive again. For me, I think I could have saved myself a lot of stress if I’d talked to my GP earlier. You may not need any help, but I know from experience that theres no magic switch to turn off your stress and anxiety
Post # 3
Member
159 posts
Blushing bee
Hi Bee, first – I am so sorry for your loss. I completely understand your frustration – I just got my period today, 4 days early, and 3 months in to TTC after my miscarriage in March. It took 9 months to conceive my daughter, 13 for the miscarriage, and I am turning 37 next month. Today I am sitting at work crying bc I just so badly want my rainbow but I don’t think it’s in the cards for us. So when I say I understand – I truly do. When you’re ready, TTC can feel like an eternity.
I don’t think there’s a right answer for you, I think you have to go by how you feel. 31 is still very young so don’t think you are running out of time. To me, it sounds like you want to take this to the next level, so I would suggest talking to your husband and then talking to a specialist. The only thing they can say is no, you need to wait X amount and come back. I do think you should make sure your heart is ready to try again and that you’ve really grieved for your loss and the trauma you had. Best of luck to you, and lots & lots of baby dust.
Post # 4
Member
1391 posts
Bumble bee
First off I’m sorry for your loss, however you got pregnant within a normal time frame for that pregnancy.
Get yourself opks and maybe start temping if you want. Cause opks aren’t an exact thing. You can get a positive opk and than end up not ovulating.
Trust me I know it sucks. It took me 2 and a half years to finally get pregnant. But really give it a bit longer before you go to see a doctor. My doctor didn’t even consider it a long time for me to be trying until I hit 18 months or something.