(Closed) Where to open wedding gifts

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I have never even heard of an event to open the presents. My husband and I opened them all once we got back from our honeymoon, at our house, alone.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Birdee106:  My Maid/Matron of Honor had a brunch to open her gifts when she got married and my Future Mother-In-Law keeps asking where we want to open our gifts (with family watching.) Maybe it depends on the region. 

ETA, nvm you arent too far from me so idk. 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

My Mother-In-Law hosted a brunch the morning after, as well, and we opened gifts then.

 

@maryelaine25:  How do your parents and bridesmaids feel about it? I’d say let the Aunt host since his side isn’t paying for much to begin with. Your folks will make the trek for you, I’m sure. I only had one Bridesmaid or Best Man at the brunch anyway, the rest were tired and wanted to go home, and I totally understood. Too much wedding, lol.

 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We opened our gifts privately, and not at the day after brunch.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

never heard of opening wedding gifts at an event, we will open them alone at our home.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

My mother’s tradition was that you open them as they arrive, but they are sort of “displayed” at the post-wedding brunch at the brides’ parents home. However, we are not doing this because the wedding will be out of state, and it’s just… so formal and 1970s to me. However, if this is a family tradition for you, I would follow local custom! 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

My brother and SIL had a brunch the next day at my parents house to open the presents. In your case, I think that if his aunt has offered to host a brunch, then you should do it there. It may be inconvenient for your side of the family and friends, but it IS just opening presents. You will have already had the wedding, the important thing, so I don’t think something like this would be absolutely necessary to attend so you shouldn’t be worrying over picking a location. If people come to see you open presents, then they come. But I think if they don’t it is probably not a big deal (to me anyway). Hope this helps somehow!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We will be opening them alone at our home. Personally, I think its a little weird to host an event to open presents. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I plan to open them at home after the honeymoon. I always get sad towards the end of a vacation, presents waiting at home for me all wrapped up in shiny paper will make me happy! 

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Also, I don’t think the brunch is necessarily held to open gifts. In my experience it’s a send-off for out of town guests, and sometimes the couple opens gifts there. It was highly suggested that Darling Husband and I do so, so we obliged. We gave the people (and esp. hostess) what they wanted!

 

 

 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@love108:  This is also what my mom thought we should do – have a display of the gifts at the day after brunch. But it is too hard because of where we live, where my parents live and where the wedding is.

We plan to just open them as they are delivered to our home, alone.

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I wouldn’t host an entire brunch even to open gifts. We had a dinner out at my in laws place the day after, and Mother-In-Law insisted we open gifts (NOT cards) because a lot of out of town family was there and they requested us to open them before they left. Cards we refused though. tacky.

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@maryelaine25:  Lol, those are in-laws for ya. Hang in there, they’re probably excited and want to be a part of things, even if they can’t pay.

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