(Closed) Where to open wedding gifts

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 18
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

If you’re annoyed that your parents are paying for so much it seems like you’d be grateful that someone from your FI’s side is offering to host the brunch. And you’re right that the location should be one that’s convenient for the hosts – but in this case the host is your FI’s aunt, not your parents. Just because they are hosting the ceremony/reception wedding does not mean that the before and after wedding events also need to be based around their convenience as well. If you’re not okay with having the brunch at this aunt’s house, you should decline the offer – I know how it is to have annoying ILs who don’t help with much but then make ridiculous demands anyways, but this really has nothing to do with that. It’s rude to tell his aunt that you want her to spend more $$ to host the brunch somewhere other than the location she offered, her home, because you don’t want your parents and bridesmaids to have to drive 45 minutes.

Post # 19
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

This sounds odd to me so I guess it is regional. I certainly wouldnt attend…how many events does a bride really need? 

Post # 21
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

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@maryelaine25:  If they are hosting/paying then I would just have it where they are offering.

Post # 22
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

most of our guests bought gifts online and had them sent to us. we only had a few people bring them to the wedding (which was awesome because we were living in a big city at the time and didn’t own a car. we had to take a taxi home which was hard enough with all the wedding stuff). the ones that were brought were opened later in private, not in front of everyone. i’ve never heard of people opening wedding gifts at an event.

Post # 23
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

this is odd. We got two boxed gifts at our wedding.  All other tangible gifts were shipped directly to our house ahead of time and were opened as they arrived.  However most of our gifts were cash.  What if people give you money?  How are you going to open that?

I would just have a brunch and skip the gift opening.

Also, when we opened all our gifts and cards, we had a computer out to track each gift and who it was from for thank you card purposes.  That would take forever and be very boring if done on display.

Post # 24
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I’d skip the gift opening as well. Besides, it’ll be SO boring for guests

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Personally, I would HATE sitting in front of a bunch of people opening gifts (I do love opening presents…who doesn’t?  But not in that type of setting…).  I get anxiety just thinking of having to do that at the shower….  Also, I personally think it’s pretty boring to watch people open a bunch of presents. 

Post # 26
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I find the whole idea of opening and displaying all the gifts publically, a bit distasteful. I think it could lead to comparison amongst the guests on both sides re who gave what. People give what they want and can afford and I don’t think it is anyone else’s business.

Having said all that, I realize it is a custom in some areas.

Post # 27
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I thought gift opening would be super boring for people, too, but the ones attending the brunch all kept asking when we’d start. Idk, maybe it’s regional. People came and went from the area we were doing it, and some left altogether in between gift opening.

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I am also part of the group that thinks that having a party/brunch/gathering/whatever in which you open your wedding gifts infront of others is very odd, and I would imagine that being very uncomfortable.  When you are opening envelopes, most of them time it’s going to come with either cash or a check.  So envelope after envelope it’s going to be, “Oh wow! The Johnson’s gave us $500!” and “Ahhh, Stacy gave us $50.” and on and on. THAT would be very uncomfortable to me.  I would open them privately.

Post # 30
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

my mil wanted to come over when we opened gifts but i thought it was weird so dh and me opened then when we came home the next day.  but my mil some how manage to get like 50 gifts from our wedding and stored them at her house so she still got her way….

Post # 31
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I would imagine that we will probably wait until we get back from our honeymoon.  We will be driving back to our house after the reception, which will put us there kinda late that night, and then getting up really early the next morning to fly out to our honeymoon destination.  There’s a chance that I won’t be able to stand it and may have to open them once we get home the night of the wedding, but even right now, thinking about having to clean up wrapping paper and putting things away the night of our wedding or coming home to that stuff strewn all over our house makes me cringe!  So yep…after the honeymoon haha!

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