(Closed) Where to put our registry information

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Before wedding websites, registry information was spread discreetly by word of mouth – if someone wanted to know where you were regiistered, they just asked your mom or one of your BM’s.  I don’t even think I’m going to put the information on my wedding website.  I figure if people want to know where I’m registered, they know my mom is just a phone call away.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

@BetterSherm:  No where.  People have been registering for longer then there was the internet.  If people want to know where you are registered they will ask you, or ask your family/bridal party.

People who are on the internet can just look up in the key places.  When I get an invitation to a wedding, I check online at HBC, BBB, Crate and Barrel etc, to look for registry.

It is very rude to include the cards along with your wedding invite.  Gifts are not to be mentioned in any capacity in an invitation.  It implies that gifts are required, and that it is there presents more so then the presence that matters.

 

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Like PP said, word of mouth. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

If including registry info in invites is normal in your circle, then it may be easier just to do it. Talk to your mom and Future Mother-In-Law and see what they think. They will likely know the etiquette expectations of the family and can tell you whether people will be offended by it. If both sides of the family expect to receive registry with the invite, then it’s fine just to send them, even if it’s not what’s considered proper.

Otherwise, if you don’t include the registry info, you’ll need to use word of mouth to inform people of the registry. Make sure your mom, Future Mother-In-Law, and bridal party know where you’ve registered, so they can pass it along to anyone who asks.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

@BetterSherm:  like you, it’s extremely common in my area to include the registry info with the invite. If that’s what’s done in your circle, I would go ahead and include it, rather than make guests call around or make a bridal party/family member responsible for it. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@BetterSherm:  Oh okay, sorry I didn’t realize that. Are there any other family members that you feel close enough to ask about this? Otherwise, with your special circumstances, it might be awkward and a pain for guests to track down the registry info when they don’t know anyone really close to the couple.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’ve somewhat worried about this, even though it sounds like my guests will have an easier time tracking down the info than yours will.  

I just checked though and putting “my name registry” into google gave me a couple of hits with both of our registrys on there.  Same thing with Fiance.  I still think that people who want to find out will be able to. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@BetterSherm:  If there’s nobody really close to have people ask about your registry (word of mouth) and it’s normal in your circle (as pp’s have said) I’d include it.

 

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