(Closed) Where to put registry inserts?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Um, NO!  Haha.  This is a hotly-debated topic.  Registry info doesn’t belong anywhere near the invite.  It’s like asking for money/gifts.  You don’t HAVE to bring a gift to a wedding.  Sure, it’s nice, but you’re inviting people to your wedding because you want them there, not because you want a gift from them.

That being said.  Registry info CAN go into shower invites.  But the most proper method is to have people spread the word. 

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’ve been thinking about this myself, and I think the invitation is probably the best place. I think the Save the Date is a little….too much. It kind of makes people think you expect them to get you a gift whether they come or not. Waiting until the invitation goes out gives people more time to plan it out.

 

AND ps…the whole etiquette thing.

People want to give you a gift. They want to know how to do that. It is not rude to help them out a bit. I have guests who aren’t connected to one another, so “word of mouth” is just not going to do it. I’m also not going to, or have my mom, call every guest and let them know where we’re registered when a small and unobtrusive card will do it nicely.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Can I also say how tired I am of hearing the “proper method” for doing things?

It’s a different world then it was when etiquette was established, and some of it is nice, while some of it it just unrealistic.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I put them with our invites. In our pocketfold. With our map and our drinks tokens and our RSVP information. And our wedding website was on our invite as well and our registry info was on there too. 

I know it’s not really the done thing but lots of our guests live overseas and it just wasn’t practical to tell them by word of mouth. And some of our guests aren’t tech-savvy enough to figure out how to get to our website so they needed to know a different way.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

While I think that some etiquette/traditions are a bit antiquated in today’s society, I don’t hink this is one of them. I have to agree with *Grey* on this one. 

I think it is just as easy to give people your registry information on your wedding website (which can be listed in your invite).  If I got an invitation to attend someone’s nuptials and it included a gift registry card, I would think, “WOW!! These people really want gifts!”  As opposed to, “What a lovely invitation.  I’m so happy for them…”  If people really want to get you something off your registry, they will find it and purchase you something.  If (and this does happen quite often) people do not really care about your registry, they will give you what they feel like giving you – or nothing. But that’s not really the point.  The point is that you are asking your closest friends and family to join you in sealing your marriage and celebrating your new life.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

If you have a wedding website and you list your registries on there (and the website is listed on the invite) you should be fine.  I don’t think I’ve ever gotten an invite (and I’ve gotten tons!) that had a registry card in it, but even if I did, I wouldn’t think it rude.  Most of the times, the registry cards are included with the bridal shower invites.  I honestly only hit up the registry for the shower and for the wedding I usually write a check – but that’s just kind of the norm in my circle of friends.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden

We’re going to have all of our guests RSVP online, so our invitation will have a link to our website. And our website also has the other info our guests might need, including the registry stuff. I’m hoping that that’s all we’ll need to do.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I think having the registry info included on your wedding website is perfectly fine. My registry info was both on my wedding website (it wasn’t announced to everyone) and it was included in my shower invite.

The rest was done by word of mouth.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I opened up a free wedding website with weddingchannel.com and put that info on the reception card.  My sister didnt put her registry info on her invitations and she didnt get any gifts at all at her wedding

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Wedding websites are great, unless you have a fair amount of people who won’t be checking out your website because they aren’t internet browsers. There are quite a few people like that out there.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

DONT put them with the invites. We threw all of ours away. My shower invitations listed the registries, and the wedding invitation info card had a link to our website. The registry info was on that site and everyone got the memo.

Including them with the invites looks gift grabby…and if someone does miss the registry on the website, you are likely to get money

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Oh my goodness, put them in the TRASH!   They don’t belong on any invitations, Save the Dates or even shower invitations.  They belong on your wedding website.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I put ours in the trash… er, I mean recycling.  We put our wedding website on the invite info section, which links in to travel info, things to do, registry, etc. 

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Nowhere! Tacky. 

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