Post # 17
Never put registry info in or on your invitation! Leave it on the website or include it in a bridal shower invitation. Everyone wants to give you a gift so they will ask around or find your registry on weddingchannel.
Yes, a lot of young people, including myself, consider some etiquette rules to be old fashioned and out of date. But a good portion of the guests are likely to be family and older relatives who still adhere to these rules. Why run the risk of dealing with the hassle?
Post # 18
While I would never put anything about my registry on my invitations, except for my wedding website…I think those little inserts in general are really tacky and cheap looking themselves. I think a cheap little paper with a code printed out on it from BBB, Target or wherever, falling out of your most likely very nice and time intensive invites looks terrible.
Whenever I have gotten an invite to a wedding and it didn’t have information on there, I simply asked the couple. It isn’t hard for a guest to do. I never would just show up to a wedding without a gift.
Post # 19
We have our registry information on our wedding website and we typically also include it in the bridal shower invite. Most of our guests are couples or families, which means almost everyone invited will know a woman who is invited to the shower and will have that information from the invite. If they don’t, I just hope they’re computer saavy enough to check out our site or feel comfortable just asking us!
Post # 20
Where to put them? The recycling bin.
Post # 21
thanks bees!! now i know..will most likely keep it on our website, and if there’s a shower, maybe on the shower invite..
Post # 22
Honestly, Out of the 7 weddings I’ve been to in the last 5 years, 6 of them had the registry info in with the rsvp card and maps/info etc. I think it is so much easier and I wasn’t at all offended. The one that didn’t have it included, was a hassle. I didn’t want to ring the bride and ask her, and I didn’t really know her parents, and we didn’t have any mutual friends. It stressed me out and I think I ended up putting $100 in a card bringing it too the wedding.
So I would say put it in the invite. But, I do live in Australia and I think our weddings are less formal in general, so maybe its just a cultural difference.
Post # 23
Registry info never goes in the wedding invites. It either goes in the shower invites or is spread via word of mouth.
Post # 24
- Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School
Unfortunately, have to agree with the majority of posters, it’s considered a bit inappropriate to include registry info on the invitation…But as long as you include your wedding website info, people will find the registries, don’t worry! And if they don’t, you’ll most likely end up with more cash instead of presents, and who can complain about that?!?
Post # 25
I always find this debate an amusing one. I’m in the same boat. I wanted to do a wedding website, have the RSVPs on the site or phone if people don’t have a computer and my mom nixed that idea, yet she wants me to put the registry info in the invitation.
Everyone I talked to said if they did their wedding over, they’d include the info – people bought them stuff not on any registry because they didn’t know they were registered anywhere, etc.. And people I’ve talked to from a guest point of view thinks it would be helpful. I’ve also seen several invitations lately that have this info in it.
People coming to my shower are not the same as the people coming to my wedding, so even though the info is in the shower invites, that will maybe count for 1/3 of our guests at the wedding.
Putting up a website would be pointles – i’m doing a pocketfold invite and will have all the info for directions, accomodations, etc on that. And putting one up JUST for registries WOULD be tacky.
So i’m in the same boat.. put a small insert with registry info or let people search for it themselves? My mom is the one most people would ask, but she’ll be going out of town soon and will be back only 2 weeks before the wedding, so she’ll be incommunicado (70% of the guests are my parents friends).
My FH and i are designing and printing our invites this afternoon.. so who knows what i’ll end up actually doing.
ETA: On the etiquette thing – everyone says you shouldn’t expect gifts, yet how many sites have I read “every $1 you put into an invite, you get $50 in gifts”. Everyone knows that if you go to a wedding, you’re expected to bring some sort of gift (whether it’s $5 or $150). So.. bride and groom expect gifts…guests know they should bring a gift – why does everyone tiptoe around this fact?? (And before anyone says i’m selfish.. if people come to my wedding and don’t bring a gift, no i wouldn’t care in the slightest.. but i AM for making life easier.)
Post # 26
I once got an invitation with many inserts:
I found the all-in-one invite easy to use. Loved it.
As for me, we’re going the wedding website route.
Post # 27
Some of you act so stuck up, no one is going to be offended if you put registry information in your invite somewhere. A lot of people don’t like to use the internet; especially older guests, and life isn’t a knitting circle so word of mouth is outdated. You could simply word it so that you make the gift seem completely optional as it should be. If someone is that offended then they probably shouldn’t come to your wedding since they obviously aren’t that close to you.
Post # 28
Put them in the recycling bin.
Post # 29
I’ve never looked at an invite with registry info and thought “OMG those greedy gift grabbers!”. Maybe its more common/accepted in the south, but seriously, it’s either include the inserts or have to answer a thousand different questions about where you’re registered